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Middle age crisis, or..?

Postby WoodNight » Sun Feb 03, 2019 7:43 am

Good day, dear members of the forum, some uncertainty has recently appeared, I do not understand what I want. Life as such did not take place can be said. I am 34 years old, neither family nor own housing, although friends consider me to be a rather intelligent person. I can understand a lot of things, for me rarely constitute caic or difficulties in urgent tasks, be it at work or at part-time work. But I feel pretty miserable. I have nothing to talk about with people, social networks as such are no longer enticing, and virtual communication is already reduced to zero. What's wrong with me? Can I still grow as a person, or is it too late to change something? One gets the impression that part of life has gone nowhere ..
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Re: Middle age crisis, or..?

Postby RottenFish » Tue Mar 05, 2019 6:21 pm

I wouldn't say something is "wrong" with you.

Owning a house and having a family doesn't guarantee happiness. Heck, most miserable people I know are married with kids and own a house.

Having a social network is not that important, neither. Most miserable people I know have "lots" of friends.

I believe you are questioning where your life is headed. It happened to me too when I was 34. I'm still not married (and don't want to), I don't own a house, and I have few friends ... and yet I'm happy. Happiness comes from within, not from without -- try to focus on the activities that bring you joy, and not what you "don't" have. :)
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Re: Middle age crisis, or..?

Postby xdude » Wed Jul 10, 2019 9:26 am

Hey man,

Late reply, but...

WoodNight wrote:...But I feel pretty miserable. I have nothing to talk about with people, social networks as such are no longer enticing, and virtual communication is already reduced to zero. What's wrong with me? Can I still grow as a person, or is it too late to change something? One gets the impression that part of life has gone nowhere ..


This is essentially the male mantra/motto, don't communicate, accumulate stuff, be dependable and reliable, hush and... I feel dead inside!

I would suggest at least being wary of electronic communications, including here to a degree. People can be at their worst when hiding behind a computer screen, though some believe that people are being honest. Fair enough either way.

The main thing is it isn't what we do, or achieve, it's about do we enjoy any of it along the way. It won't always make you friends if you put your emotions over being an ideal rock of a person (though some people will respond positively), but the only one who will be missing out on life is you, if you don't allow yourself to feel your emotions.

Easier written than done, but there is whole other world there to be explored. It takes time to unlearn a lifetime habit/practice of shutting down our own emotions as guys.
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