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dealing with being invalidated by doctors

Postby rebellious » Sun Nov 10, 2019 7:38 pm

Hi people!

I just felt I needed to get this thing off my chest that has been bugging me:
A few days ago I visited the psychiatric emergency for the fifth time this year, I felt like I couldn't wait for my doctors appointment to adjust my antidepressants.
So I needed a new prescription and the doctor I met kept arguing with me when I told him about my symptoms, basically saying "don't do that, that's not good for you, try to get out more etc".

It didn't seem to matter to him when I explained that I've been trying everything in order to not be depressed, you name it- I've tried it. Healthy diet and exercise, meditation and yoga, religion and spiritual conversations, community work and furthering my education.. Yet I got depressed again for the millionth time and it has taken everything away from me since I have no energy or motivation to do anything anymore.
He even asked me if I thought that antidepressants was "just going to magically make my problems disappear" even though he knew I was suicidal and had been dealing with depression/medications on and off for years now.

I managed to get through that horrible visit and explain that it was either suicide or meds and that I don't want to let depression win.
But afterwords I am arguing in my head and trying to remind myself that my depression is valid and that I'm not being a whiny asshole that doesn't want to deal with life.

I knew he was stressed out since he was the only doctor in that unit and he was swamped with visitors but what he said got to me. Probably because I doubt myself every day even though I know I was so sad to see my active life disappear in front of me and that I am completely unrecognisable now.

I know that I'm far from alone in being invalidated by doctors and other people who think that your condition can be cured by either this or that and that you're just not trying hard enough.
So how do you deal with being invalidated?

I feel like I have to defend something that I didn't even want in the first place and that messes with my head. I don't even want to have to explain and convince people of my symptoms, I want them to go away so I don't have to deal with doctors ever again.
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Re: dealing with being invalidated by doctors

Postby BrokenNotBaD » Thu Nov 21, 2019 8:53 am

I feel your pain, its like some professionals think we have life problems or a lack of skills for dealing with situations.

Yes my BPD avoidant personality limits my exposure to learning coping strategies, thus I fail and feel defeated leading to grief and enough of these situations compound leading to emotional exhaustion /depression. Our body has limits on how quickly it can replace neurotransmitters (I'm assuming haven't done any studies).

But some people dismiss mental health issues, like they have all the answers when you generally get the feeling because they haven't experienced it it ain't real.

Dont let them invalidate your feelings as it doesn't serve their purposes, don't surrender your dignity ask politely to see someone else who hopefully will have a more open view or at least take the time to understand yours.

Agapé= unconditional love, no bounds, no limits, no rules just acceptance.
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Re: dealing with being invalidated by doctors

Postby protos » Wed Apr 29, 2020 7:52 pm


Have you any interest in the world out of you?

Have you any moments when, in the deep of your mind, you feel that this depression is on the correct place, but people around you can't understand this?
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