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Paranoia Problem?

Postby LeeMills77 » Sun Oct 13, 2019 1:54 pm

I seem to have a paranoia problem - the same pattery repeats each time.

I start a new job, with the hope of connecting with people. But, over time, I get excluded, I don't have much to say and I start thinking my manager and supervisor are talking about me behind my back and I will be getting dismissed soon. I keep falling into this pattern and I don't want to. I have all these beliefs popping up all the time.

I recall my childhood - my mum was (I'm convinced) is a narcissist and utterly paranoid. She was always saying her ex-partners were always plotting to destroy her. She said this for years and years. She always thought people were talking about her behind her back. I can recall countless times this happened.

Has my paranoia come from this? I can't think where else it has come from?

Also, I often think I should be paranoid because I have failed in many relationships and knowing this was going to happen. I've had jobs when I've been insecure about my position and I have lost my job.

Am I making this come true by thinking about it all the time? I'm nearly 40 and have struggled with this my entire life. I really need to have this sorted but don't know where to begin. Please help!

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Re: Paranoia Problem?

Postby thegentlepath » Sun Oct 13, 2019 4:59 pm

Hi LeeMills77,

A couple things that stand out to me in this post:

1) Starting jobs with the hope of connecting to people. You may have better results by starting jobs with the hope of paying the bills, saving for retirement, & learning skills to make yourself indispensable in your field. If you connect with people, great, if not, that’s okay too. Some people won’t like you no matter what you do or how hard you try.

2) Your Mother. It’s true (I believe—but I’m no expert), that we are influenced by the behaviors modeled by our caregiver(s) during early development in childhood. But I also believe in neuroplasticity & the ability to overcome. That doesn’t mean it’s easy—it’s not easy. It’s hard work, but it’s better than the alternatives.

One more thing that stood out to me from your previous posts:

Others have suggested professional help, including a full medical checkup. Have you followed through on this advice? Underlying physical conditions are often a contributing factor to poor mental health.

Those are just my own thoughts. If you found them helpful at all, that’s great. If not, that’s okay too. :)
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