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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby thegentlepath » Sun Jan 26, 2020 4:30 pm

Hi poxalis,

It’s true, often walking away & starting over somewhere else is one’s best course of action. I’ve been there more than once. Thank you for your input.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby thegentlepath » Fri Feb 14, 2020 2:32 pm

handsomejaack wrote:Focus on my work
Being bipolar gives me a huge advantage over the "normals" i have a lazer focus and energy for days in a small period of mania i secured 2 new positions and got employee of the month.
i use my bipolar as a tool, when it works good its really good
But
These obsessive focus and tunnel visions can lead me to be so hyped to learn new things and excell and as obsessive as i get i know in a week...a day....or even and hour that focus can go away just as fast,( its like "ok im over it..lets move on") so you have to take advantage of that window and just do your thing let the bipolar take you to new heights, but realize it can leave you so grab it and ride it.
I use that focus to fool the bosses into thinking im really passionate about my work when really its just an excuse to avoid contact as much as i can with the "normals"
My disorder isnt a set back its a tool that needs to be harnessed, being "normal" like them would lead to a very boring life..
thats how i cope at work with the "normals"


Hi handsomejaack,

I’m just seeing your response. I 100% agree about harnessing that energy. We might as well derive all the benefits we can from being the way we are. The world needs us & our strengths as much as we get crap for our perceived weaknesses. Thank you for sharing.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby benjoy » Thu Apr 02, 2020 4:44 am

I'm a nerdy person. Although I do not have social anxiety disorder, I do not like to communicate with people. In fact, this is quite relaxing.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby thegentlepath » Sat Jul 04, 2020 2:19 pm

Hi benjoy, thanks for writing.

I think I want to walk away from this volunteer gig even though I’ll get much flack. I despise my “boss”, I’m not physically capable of doing what they want, & I feel like living with my family of origin is volunteering enough. :lol: I feel bad though, because I believe in the organization’s mission, they could really use the help, & most of the other people there don’t suck. :( Oh well.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby ttt123 » Wed Aug 12, 2020 3:04 pm

When working with others in like a retail environment etc. I did the work hard thing, while everyone else is socializing standing around, joking around, but it backfired on me, they would give me extra work to do, their share of work, so i got taken advantage of that way.

Now I clean houses by myself and sell some of my arts and crafts which I do alone, think finding jobs with less people to interact with, especially social groups, is the best bet, at least for me.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby thegentlepath » Thu Aug 13, 2020 3:02 pm

ttt123 wrote:When working with others in like a retail environment etc. I did the work hard thing, while everyone else is socializing standing around, joking around, but it backfired on me, they would give me extra work to do, their share of work, so i got taken advantage of that way.

Now I clean houses by myself and sell some of my arts and crafts which I do alone, think finding jobs with less people to interact with, especially social groups, is the best bet, at least for me.

Hi ttt123, I agree. People who work hard are in real danger of being exploited. :evil: I’m thinking about applying for a cleaning job in a hotel. That’s one job I haven’t tried yet. Cleaning houses & selling arts & crafts sounds good too though. Thank you for writing. :)
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby thegentlepath » Tue Sep 22, 2020 2:15 pm

My first volunteer job is opening back up again after 6 months. They called & left me a message that I can come back now. I need to get out of the house & away from my family of origin anyway. I’ll probably need retraining, as I think their processes will have changed a bit because of the pandemic.

I’m feeling anxious about it, but it’s just a matter of building a new routine & I will be okay, I think. I stopped taking all my prescription meds a few months ago. I ran out & I don’t want to go back to my care provider. I don’t advise going off prescription meds without your care provider knowing.

I’ve thought a lot about my first volunteer job these past 6 months & how I can assimilate better. I think I overdressed before. It’s very casual here (thank gods), so I’d be fine in a nice pair of jeans (no holes) & nice sneakers. I don’t want to seem more stuck up than I already do.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby MindOnAir » Fri Oct 30, 2020 1:06 am

The hardest part about working is always being mentally aware of verbal cues. I have to put in extra effort just to observe how everybody else socialize. One fact that hasn't changed is how I need a 5 minute mental break everytime I finish speaking on the phone. However I am getting better and more confident speaking on the phone. Strangely, being criticized and making mistakes isn't what I am scared of. I am scared that others will see me as not empathetic enough when I acutally do care about the work. As a permanent employee, I want to continue breaking down all of my shields that I have built. I am curing my AvPD day by day.
Dx: Avpd, Paranoid Personality. Erotomania. Shoplifter.
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby thegentlepath » Fri Oct 30, 2020 6:21 pm

That’s great to be able to give yourself a little break after a difficult task MindOnAir. I’ve been building a break into my schedule after my volunteer shift. I go to my car, push the seat back, & eat a healthy snack as I watch the traffic go by. Stress management is so crucial for our continuing success!
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Re: How do you assimilate with Normals at your place of employ?

Postby MindOnAir » Mon Nov 02, 2020 8:26 pm

Hi thegentlepath,

Thanks for your reply. Are you doing well today?
Dx: Avpd, Paranoid Personality. Erotomania. Shoplifter.
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