need advice

Hi guys...I have a dear, close friend who has been like a sister to me for 30 years. She has IED and previously has never exploded at me...until 3 weeks ago. She is currently untreated except for prozac, which I don't think is doing much for her. I have been texting her once a week to check in with little response from her. She just moved to my area to be near me and my family and the beach. I don't know what to do. Or if I should do anything.

She was enraged at a text I sent her, giving her info about possible church activities her daughter might be interested in (to make friends, since she is a new kid to the area...they are churchgoers so I wasn't you know proselytizing). I told her I was sorry I upset her at the time and proceeded to cry off and on for a few days, because she said some really hurtful things. Then I got over it because I know she has an illness.

I miss her but moreso I am terribly worried about her. I don't know whether to assume she is still pissed or if she just needs space or if I just need to say, look you are probably still mad at me but I want you to know I am here when (or if) you want to resume communication.

Any insights to my situation or advice would be very much appreciated.

Welcome Peacenik ,

I'm sorry your friend hurt you the way she did . Even when we understand the reason , it doesn't make it any less painful . Has your friend been in touch since this happened ?

No she hasn't. I initiated contact by text twice and asked her how she was doing and both times she just said "Everything's fine. Thanks for checking in." I don't know if I should just talk to her and say, "hey are we still friends" or what. I don't think I did anything to apologize for, other than being clueless that I would set her off.

peacenik wrote:No she hasn't. I initiated contact by text twice and asked her how she was doing and both times she just said "Everything's fine. Thanks for checking in." I don't know if I should just talk to her and say, "hey are we still friends" or what. I don't think I did anything to apologize for, other than being clueless that I would set her off.

It sounds like she needs some space. Perhaps hold off on contacting her for awhile. She knows she can contact you. You sound like a supportive friend!

Thanks for that. I appreciate it! I will hold off on communicating for now.