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Re: Questions for HPDs from Nons (Could be Triggering)

Postby Ringil » Thu Aug 29, 2019 5:55 pm

Thanks for warning me, appreciate your time, though I don't fear conflict, I have worse opponents in the office :) Thanks for pointing this out, I understand what you mean.

However, following your recommendation (out of compassion) I started answering her slightly bitchy attempts to catch my attention now in a friendly, yet distant way (instead of ignoring her presence like before). Polite and recognizing her presence but clearly professional and distant. More she'll never get, whatever she might do. Luckily there's enough "supply" around me who draw her attention away from me, so I expect I'm getting out of this situation with very low effort (just a few smiles) :)

If I _could_ help her I'd be willing to invest a significant amount of time. But I can't unless I invent a time machine, I guess. What asshole parents can be so cruel ...
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Re: Questions for HPDs from Nons (Could be Triggering)

Postby shimtie » Thu Oct 31, 2019 7:25 am

I'm on the live and let live side of the line because finding common ground suggests interacting with my HPD (I'm one of the walking wounded too). What a shame they're deleting it from the DSM; it's sufficiently different from BPD or NPD; these people are from a bit of a different mold. They...really draw out the sympathy/empathy of others with their seeming sincerity and they throw themselves into really convincing performances moreso than any NPD I ever met; also the oversexualization and obvious making-more-of-relationships than they are (strangers = sudden friends). It's much better to pull the tiller and steer clear. I do hope these forums are maintained because a digitized record of the goings on can be analyzed as research methods improve even in cases of unlabelled participants, i.e. the undiagnosed (my Ph.D. thesis explores this sort of inference but for normal personality...the applications to psychopathology abound).
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Re: Questions for HPDs from Nons (Could be Triggering)

Postby xdude » Mon Nov 11, 2019 11:33 am

shimtie wrote:I'm on the live and let live side of the line because finding common ground suggests interacting with my HPD (I'm one of the walking wounded too). What a shame they're deleting it from the DSM; it's sufficiently different from BPD or NPD; these people are from a bit of a different mold. They...really draw out the sympathy/empathy of others with their seeming sincerity and they throw themselves into really convincing performances moreso than any NPD I ever met; also the oversexualization and obvious making-more-of-relationships than they are (strangers = sudden friends). It's much better to pull the tiller and steer clear. I do hope these forums are maintained because a digitized record of the goings on can be analyzed as research methods improve even in cases of unlabelled participants, i.e. the undiagnosed (my Ph.D. thesis explores this sort of inference but for normal personality...the applications to psychopathology abound).


I guess it has been one of those debated items. Is HPD really different, or is it just an adaptation based on what is socially approved for females vs males?
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