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Help... more loss

Postby Popcorn72 » Mon Jul 03, 2017 12:48 am

I'm really struggling right now.

I lost three relatives last year,, including my dad to cancer, being medicalllly trained with knowledge of the human body, seeing dad on the last few days including seeing him hours before he died I could see I human body signs aand what all the drugs and observations and the discussion and the worst thing was seeing and understanding his organs failing and I felt I was handcuffed and not able to do any thing or ease the sufffering and it was my dad lying there. I never grieved properly

The more concerningg thing is my close friend, my roock and my NOK, he's dying of cancer and has days possibly a week left, I've been to see him for the last time as I cant hold his hand to the end, he's In hospital but there desperately trying to find a bed in a hospice Orr nursing home.

I've got no support or counsellor or anyone to sit down and talk to.

I have mental health problem including anxiety and panic disorder leaving my flat without strong anxiety meds and escorted and support, which I'm not getting suppprt from the mental health team with this.

: :!: Please can someone help or suggest something :!:

I realy heed someone to help. I'm in the uk I can't affford counsellor or therapist and would need phone counselling or someone to visit me at home, ive got no one to t talk to and it's just getting extremely harder.

*mod edit* can't offer me anything but six sessions and I'm disabled and cant manage thhe stairs

*mod edit*. Will do face to face at there centre ( which I can't get out to It)

My mental health team is as much use as a chocolate fire-guard

Please can any please help me, I can't do this alone.

Cheers
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Re: Help... more loss

Postby Quoth » Thu Jul 06, 2017 11:09 pm

Mental health spending in the uk has been cut to ribbons.

Have you tried asking for a Skype appointment instead of a telephone one. I have found it's easier to get them to do this, but you do have to push HARD. Reminding them that they have a duty of care never hurts.
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Re: Help... more loss

Postby Popcorn72 » Fri Jul 07, 2017 6:34 pm

Tried to learn how to use Skype which was put on my laptop.
Couldn't manage to work it out despite shown a few times.
Now have my iPad, would something else work that's easier to use.

Spoke to doctor about having an organisation take me to a local hospice for counselling under lorazepam until my anxiety and panic attacks improve, think she's going discuss it but strongly agrees I really really do need counselling. She did say the loss will hit me hard and to reach out if things get hard or things go bad. She gave bit of other upport advice about that too. She was very pleased though I had beeN doing alot to keep my mind occupied and told me to keep doing so but it was important to have time thinking about my friend and also my dad who died of cancer. Worried a bit that I totally fall-apart as I be on my own and see no one from Saturday tea- time to Wednesday lunchtime. No one is visiting and can't get out. But I will try ( though sometimes I can't) to keep in touch with a few people online and not isolate and withdrawal.

I've managed to arrange some of support which should be enough and if not I'm sure someone else I know will help out and calm me or get me help When I go to the funeral and wake afterwards. The doctor has given me some more lorazepam for it. Just waiting on a date now and got to order something to wear.
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