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I can't trust any man

Postby helpme630 » Thu Jun 08, 2017 1:15 am

I'm a younger trans boy, and I can't help but feel a deeply seeded mistrust in any man above 18 that I come across. Including my dad. I just feel so tense, like I'm gonna be attacked at any moment. I don't know what's wrong with me.
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Re: I can't trust any man

Postby Snaga » Thu Jun 08, 2017 5:25 am

By transboy, I'm assuming FtM, correct?

Do you feel particularly threatened by cis-males, and why? Is it because of your birth gender? Do you think once you fully transition, that will go away?
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Re: I can't trust any man

Postby helpme630 » Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:49 am

Yes, to the fact that I'm FtM and I'm threatened by older cis men. It might be because of my birth gender, but I don't know if it's normal to feel threatened by every cis man. It might go away, but I'm not totally sure. I just don't like feeling this way.
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Re: I can't trust any man

Postby Snaga » Fri Jun 09, 2017 5:40 pm

I can't imagine why that should be normal...

I was wondering, if it was because you're trans... you say you're young, so I'm assuming you are as yet untransitioned. I wonder if it's feelings of inadequacy. Being female is associated with being the weaker sex (despite they have greater physical endurance and I think pain tolerance, etc), and maybe that's part of what's eating at you when you're around guys that were born guys. My birth gender is male, and even though I'm somewhat fluid, and strongly prefer/envy the feminine gender, I know I struggle with feelings like that. So that's one direction I was leading to.

As far as other directions, have you ever been hurt/molested/etc by a guy, that you should be uneasy around them?

And yet another direction that occurs to me- and I may be speaking a little treason here, but there are transpeople that detransition when they realise they had other issues going on... could your desire to transition FtM, be a way of defense against the uneasiness you have?

All things to think about, and if you're still pretty young, you've plenty of time to ponder these things. Anyway let me know what you think about any of these ideas I'm throwing out there, if anything resonates with you.
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Re: I can't trust any man

Postby Flameblight » Fri Jun 23, 2017 1:54 am

It's part and a normal reaction as a female, but things beyond normal is not normal if this happen alot, I think you're reaction, feeling or thinking is not good, did you have a traumatic incident with men?
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