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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby Dal7028 » Sat Apr 16, 2016 3:34 am

I'm in the same boat as many of you, gambling to me is my hobby, or at least that's what I tell myself. I don't feel that I have the strength to completely quit. Once I'm away from it for awhile, I start up again and the outcome is always the same, win thousands, never cash out and give it all back in the end. My main problem is that I have won thousands in Vegas, walked away and was very happy, thinking, that's all I have to do is walk away at a certain number. Problem is no matter how much we win, we will always end up giving it back. I'm not sure what the answer is really, but at this point I know I'm at rock bottom and I need to do something about it. To the few people who mentioned hurting themselves, that, I will tell you is not the answer. We just need to fess up to our addiction then go from there to try and make things right. There are much worse things in life than having a gambling problem, so just stay positive and don't give up on yourself.
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby GamblingStories » Sun Apr 17, 2016 5:40 am

Hello Dal,

Can I ask what do you gamble your money on just out of curiosity?
Is it sports betting, casino games, slots?
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby kkajaria3 » Mon Jul 11, 2016 5:49 am

I'm 21 years old and a 3rd year in college. I got my first internship in a new city (Cambridge), and I study in Atlanta. I used to gamble online with small amounts while in college, not too much, never more than 30-40 dollars, however in my internship, due to having a lot of free time and not too many people to hang out with, I end up gambling a lot. I started of with 20-30 dollars, and now have built up a debt of over $1500. I don't know how to stop. I keep convincing myself that I will win it all back, and only end up losing more. I get close to recovering all my debts, and suddenly have a losing streak which makes me much much worse than I was ever before, and I can never stop. I am really trying very hard to convince myself that I will never get that money back, and quit. Reading this blog has helped me a lot, to see that there are so many people facing the exact same issues as me.

Hopefully I can quit soon, so my quality of life improves. I have decided that from today June 11th, 2016, I will stop gambling, and have blocked all the online gambling websites I frequented regularly. Hopefully I will be able to keep my commitment!

Hope that all of you will be able to successfully leave this bad world of gambling soon!

Stay strong and positive.
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby Tunefor » Wed Jul 20, 2016 10:38 pm

Why cant i (we) stop??
I really dont know, it seems like biggest mystery in whole world.
Right now i am lying in bed and thinking about my life and what are my options regarding gambling(betting).
Last month was really one of the most ugly periods in my 10 years long gambling career and first time that i was seriously disgusted by myself.
For long time my first thought about quiting was that i can not quit now when i am down (I will quit when i win big) :lol: .....but now i am having different thoughts.....i feel that i can not quit because it is become part of my life, my ego, my every day joy and suffer.
It is not even about money anymore.......because i am aware that i will never win it back and even if i do i will want to win little more....and more..,and just one more sure bet.....then sure bet will become losing bet and then i will start CHASING( Oh yeah i love chasing losses)
I dont know..i feel like crap...lost in gambling and too ###$ up to try to live without it.
Gambling is not only addiction that i have history with......same things happens with alcohol.
For some time i will keep it under some form of control but from time i just cant stop....and then this usually ends up in disaster like being lost somewhere in God knows where part of city, or waking up in vomit or crashed car.
But i dont drink so often so these lapses are not so devastateing like gambling which is every day preoccupations(my day starts with checking overnight results and looking up for new bets...etc.etc)
Probably i will quit it for good one day when i hit even deeper rock bottom but for now i will try to keep it "under control" at least for some time while i earn some money.
But definitely need to stop permanently but now with current job and lack of social life not a realistic target.
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby riegerjay5 » Tue Aug 16, 2016 12:57 am

So I went to the casino last night and lost another $3000. It all started in my hometown having a few beers at the bar. Initially I was doing fine telling myself to stay away from the poker machines but after watching 5 people lose I was sure that I would hit it big. Ha! So, after I reached my daily atm withdrawal limit the only other place to get more money is at the casino. After a 30 minute booze cruise I am there. I used to only lose $200-$500 but now after a few large wins I just have to bet big. The worst part is the casino will allow me to get up to $4000 even if I don't have that much money in my checking account, rarely do I ever have that much money anyways. So now I'm thinking about the 5 checks I'm about ready to bounce and how I'm going to get the money to cover it before it hits the bankt. I cant ask my mom again to help me because she will kill me. I am so disgusted, been throwing up all day, can't sleep, don't even want to go to work. GOD help me . Why do I do this to myself. I have these triggers and then I can't stop
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby GamblerInRecovery » Fri Aug 19, 2016 9:12 pm

Let me give my 2 (and a half) cents why it is difficult to stop but it can be done as that's exactly what I did! For how long we shall see but I'm extremely determined!

First we can't stop because of the nature of the addiction. It creates monsters of us! We become something we are not. We think and act foolishly and irrationally. We want just 1 more bet or spin to recoup our losses and the more we want to win the more we get sucked into and can't stop! We keep losing, losing, losing, then we win but it's not enough as we've lost more then we want to win again and keep going until we lose everything. The saddest reason why someone can't stop is when it's not about money anymore but about the action and the rush to never end. Eventually it ends and this person runs to the ATM to get more money and feed the already drugged brain which is completely blocked out of rational thinking. In such situations someone needs to beat the hell out of that person in order to prevent him from gambling. It's extreme I know but as long as flight or fight response isn't initiated the brain will remain dead when it comes to rational thinking in that particular moment. If we could just watch a videotape of ourselves how desperate and stupid we look when we go to ATM to get money then return to casino or bookie then we should start thinking "Wtf I was doing how can I be so stupid?"
The same is valid for online gambling. We should look at our credit card statements and learn the painful truth how much money we've gambled away!!!

There are a ton of ways to stop gambling for good. All it takes is good will and determination to end the pact with the devil once and for all! Easier said than done I ######6 know it! Self-exclusion from all online gambling sites, installing software which blocks gambling websites, excluding from casino and bookmakers in real life. This is step 1. Step 2 would be to face reality and feel the pain! Let the anger, depression, sadness come and go away! Break furniture if you need to vent, cry, scream but don't gamble! The feelings must be lived and well remembered! Let we face what we've done to ourselves and those around us and ask ourselves if we want to continue like this. If we return to gambling to avoid reality we will show how weak we are and still need to work on ourselves! Escaping reality or the consequences from escaping reality is impossible. The soon this lesson is learned the better! Step 3 is accepting the reality, realizing what's been done can't be undone, letting go of losses and starting to rebuild our life. 1 day at a time is the key! There are no shortcuts for anything in life including recovering from gambling! As long as we keep moving forward we will reach our goal. As long as we stay gambling free things will get better, we will start to feel better and will never want to return to our darkest moments in life when we were gambling like lunatics. Step 4 is to never ever again challenge any form of gambling or try to have fun through gambling with a promise this time it will be all different. No it won't. It will always always always end the same! When urges will appear call or tell someone, do a reality check, ask yourself do you really want to go through hell all over again. Write down list of things what you lose when you gamble or how bad you've felt the last time and every time you gambled. Keep this list in your pocket or nearby. Read it every time you have urge. Watch a movie. Go to the gym. Do everything to keep yourself busy until rational part of the brain wins the battle! Step 5 is to be thankful for every GF day and remind yourself how beautiful is life without gambling. Tell yourself gambling does no good to anyone. Forgive yourself, love yourself, realize it was addiction that made you gamble and that is not who you are. Demotivate yourself when it comes to gambling. Say yourself "I will never ever ever ever ever make money on gambling no matter what I do". Don't ever try to challenge this statement! If it was profitable there wouldn't be casinos and bookmakers on every corner. Step 6: reward yourself to keep the dopamine level high. :D Celebrate every anniversary of being GF. Go on a trip, buy yourself something, enjoy life and keep reminding yourself this is how you like to live the rest of your life. Don't think too much about gambling but in the back of your mind remind yourself that you don't want this good life taken away from you! Lucky step 7: congratulations you've successfully beaten the gambling addiction. You have suppressed it to the level it's not affecting your life anymore in any way but always beware that it's a longlife disease (I don't want to believe in this). It is still there waiting to attack you at your weakest point. Fight hard until the last day of your life to remain GF and prove to yourself you've lived the life of your dreams and you were in control of everything and not some stupid manageable disease!

Basically that's it more or less. Whether it is 7 or 70 steps go as many steps as you need to quit! Don't just stop because you will return again. Quit! Yes stopping is the first step, but quitting is the ultimate goal! Invest your money in some business idea, start something, put money in bank account where you can't touch them in the next 10 years no matter what - make such agreement with the bank if possible! The only thing you'll want to keep yourself demotivated in life is when it comes to gambling!!! Do whatever it takes to demotivate your brain from tricking you into gambling . - the more gambling we give him the more he wants. Once we stop giving him gamble he starts crying, whining and eventually gives up. I prefer to be winner in life, not in gambling! I highly suggest everyone picks this option because trust me... you will never regret this choice!!! ;)
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby 1wiserman » Sun Aug 21, 2016 11:17 am

30 days GF. When I took a look at all my VISA cash advances at casinos in last five years I said WTF have I been doing.
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Re: why cant i stop??

Postby adreamer » Tue Jan 17, 2017 11:14 pm

I'm still gutted and still can't talk about my gambling yet, but I won't gamble today. I need to lock myself away inside house where I am safe from temptation. Whatever it takes!!

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