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Postby Badideas » Thu May 19, 2022 6:25 am

Hi everyone,


About a year and a half ago My wife had a stroke and I was not able to work for 6 months while she was recovering not being in the right mind I signed up to start trading hoping to make some money. Unfortunately this started a gambling addiction.... now a year and a half later I am trying to hold my self together.... This really sucks I'm glad to say I'm done with gambling and I'm moving on with life unfortunately I have buried myself a hole to big to get out of and feel like a POS. I always said I'd never be in the position but it has now happened... every time i lost i told my self no more but the next day i was at it again over and over

Now trYing to get myseLf out of the hole a burried myself in.. I may have to start a go fund me just dont want to deal with EVERYONE KNOWING WHAT I DID... not looking for a fortune or to make back what i lost i just dont want to loose everything....
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Re: Need help with Gambling debt

Postby RicardoG » Fri May 20, 2022 12:40 am

Hello Badideas,

Good to hear that you're done with gambling.
The debt that comes as a result of our addiction is a burden. And this burden is for us to settle it on our own. Having an easy way out is temporary, sometimes it can be even worse. As since we don't take responsibility for our previous actions, we may not learn from our past mistakes.

I do understand what you are going through. The best way out is for us to pay out the debt on our own, through our hard work. Surely it will take time. As much pain there is, in term of mentally thinking of it, in due time we would somehow overcome this.

I wish you the best only, and please do come back to post your updates so that we can journey together.
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Re: Need help with Gambling debt

Postby Aries411 » Fri May 20, 2022 6:31 pm

Welcome to the forum and thank you for your post badideas,

I also agree with Ricardo. I think we are all responsible regarding our debts and that we must all be patient with it. This can only be done through hard work and earning money the old-fashioned way. Yes, it may take many years, but you will find that you will pay it off sooner than you think because you aren't gambling anymore. Many of us are impatient and want this debt gone as soon as possible (which makes perfect sense..), but it can lead to a dangerous trail of thought. We may begin to think that gambling can help us earn the money to help us pay the debt faster, but we all know where that will lead us...
I also understand how you don't want ANYONE to know what you did. If I could, I would have carried this addiction to the grave, but sadly (or I can say fortunately now), my wife found out. If you are truly done with gambling, set aside a thousand or two (or however much you can afford without people knowing) and pay down your debt.
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Re: Need help with Gambling debt

Postby Badideas » Sat May 21, 2022 4:18 am

Hey Guys,

100% I am working my ass off but so many people out there get a helping hand and you guys should not be afraid to ask for it.... yes we screwed up in my case 150k I'm not asking for someone to help me get rid of that I just need help before I loose my house. My loved ones know what I did lucky for me they are supportive.

Yes I'm working a full time job 7am - 5:30 pm everyday and doing as much cash side jobs as I could. Nothing will ever get me to recover this feeling I have two young kids that need the money but instead I was selfish and let my addiction ruin everything.

As for Gambling I have locked myself out so I can't get back into it unless I go to a casino but that is not me I will never go back I'm done chasing its recovery time. I have great will power but addiction one this time I won't let it do it again!!

You guys should really put yourselfs out there you think we are the only ones to do this? There's lots of people that where in our shoes thst would be willing to lend a helping hand that's all I need
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Re: Need help with Gambling debt

Postby NewSunRising » Sat May 21, 2022 1:15 pm

It's great that you are determined not to gamble again .

Gambling debt isn't accumulated overnight and it won't be eliminated overnight . It took me close to 2 years to pay off my debt ( credit cards and bank loans ) . Yes , I would have loved to see my debt disappear faster because someone bailed me out but all that would have done was convince me I could still gamble and if I lost my money , I could just find someone to "help me out" again . This is how the addicted brain thinks .

That said , the purpose of this forum is to support people who are fighting to overcome their gambling addiction . It's not a place to seek advice on how to get debt paid off by outside sources . If you need support and help to stop gambling , we will be here for you . If you are looking for ways to get financial help from other people , this is not the place to do it .

I wish you well .
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Re: Need help with Gambling debt

Postby RicardoG » Wed May 25, 2022 4:28 am

Hi Badideas,

I was one of those person who can help to settle my debt once upon a time before.
Frankly, it didn't create that "remorse" feeling in me, since that was an easy way out.
Probably I didn't learn my lesson.

Life is a journey, you are not taking stock at any time before we don't know when we are going to leave this world. So, we just to stick to the hard way which is...pay off our own debt on our own.
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