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I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby BadHabits28 » Thu May 17, 2018 6:30 pm

Hi,

It’s really the first time I tell people about my issues. I know for a long time I have them and I think it’s time for me to share and get support from other people like me. I’m 27 years old, and I have a gambling problem. It’s not a day to day thing, it always come randomly, I will bet a ridicule amount of money and then feel awful for a couple of weeks, then forget, then start again ect ect ect… It always seems to be when everything goes well in my life, it looks like self destruction to me. I don’t know, I must be a real messed up person inside. However, I have everything for me; A girlfriend I love, a dog, a nice family, good friends and a really good job for my age.

It was not always the case. The gambling problem probably started when I was at a low point in my life. But now that I’m all set and ready to push forward in life, it’s bringing me down and don’t allow me to see a bright future. Right now, I have 4000$ in debt. I can manage to clear this in a couple of month, I’m not really worried about it. I’m more worried of the vicious circle that has been going on and I need a way out. I need to be able to stick to my word when I say : “Not anymore”. I need to stop chasing those wins. ######6 win, way worse than any lost.

Anyway, I don’t know why I reached out like this, I’m not ready to fully disclose anything to any person in my life. If I can manage this alone, or with the support of stranger, I will be able to put that behind me and never go there again.

Thank you for reading, and sorry for the mistakes. English is not my mother tongue.

Alex

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Re: I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby Gabone25 » Fri May 18, 2018 6:39 am

First of all you need to forget the money you lost ( witch are not a lot, many of us lost a lot more) and set your mind free. You need to realise that continuing you make your debt bigger because at the end you will lose your money. If you are winning, you will want more...if you are losing, you will chase but all this will lead to the same ending- losing money. It's like a many different paths of illusion with same result and ending- money lost. If you really realise this and you don't fool yourself with the illusion of beating the odds or any kind of possible winning systems, than you will be ready to really STOP. Like I said before, Casinos, sports betting, slots...in any kind of gambling in fact, they love when you win because this will keep you involved, they give you the sentiment of invincibility, makes you greedy and at some point addicted and all the addiction it will harm you, has bad ending.
Sooo, shouldn't be difficult for you to STOP at this phase and you need to forget about money lost and chasing.
Good luck !!!
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Re: I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby Aries411 » Fri May 18, 2018 11:42 am

Forgetting about the lost money is probably one of the harder things to get past for a gambling addict. Otherwise, we wouldn't chase and end up in such a deep hole.

BadHabits28 wrote:If I can manage this alone, or with the support of stranger, I will be able to put that behind me and never go there again.


There is a perfect group for anonymous support called GA. They offer great support and understand what you are going through. They have regular meetings throughout the world and has been the core of recovery for many people. Look up a meeting nearby and give it a try. You have nothing to lose except perhaps the addiction :D
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Re: I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby BadHabits28 » Fri May 18, 2018 12:47 pm

Thank you for your replies, I appreciate it.

I think I'm at peace with the fact that I won't see that money again. I should see the lost as an investment on myself and a lesson learn. I'm only scare that it will happen again since I'm the type of gamble that is able not to play for a couple of months in a row. Then out of the blue, my mind trick me into playing again. I need to see what exactly are my triggers and learn to see the signs when I'm more at risk of playing.

As far as GA goes, I'm not sure I'm ready to go there. I've read a bit about them and I'm not too fan of the religious aspect in them. I consider myself a brilliant person who have a shortcoming when it comes to gambling. I believe that if I stay careful and pay more attention, I can do that. I'm just scared of not seeing the trigger again and fall back in this vicious circle.

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Re: I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby Aries411 » Fri May 18, 2018 7:24 pm

It is true that the book that is read in GA refers to a higher power and God once or twice, but my higher power is simply the road to recovery. That isn't its GA's main focus and it doesn't depend on your belief on this 'higher power'. It is simply people sharing their stories, wisdom and compassion to those who are lost and who need it. As people have said, it isn't for everyone, but I think everyone that is struggling should at least give it a try.
Even if you don't attend, it seems like you have some control on your thoughts and I hope you learn from your mistakes and remember where the road of gambling will bring you. It is hard to maintain this awareness of your thoughts but you get better at it with time.
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Re: I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby Admitting » Sat May 19, 2018 1:40 pm

You sound similar to me, I did the same pattern. When things were good I made it hard on myself, saved a few K and then would blow it gambling and work hard to get it back. It is possible to do it on your own you just really have to want it. I'm not into a lot of this group stuff and I reached out on this forum for help. Sometimes just knowing you are not alone is enough. Been doing pretty good for a couple years. My buddies and family really like to gamble so instead of saying I'm quitting since I have a problem I just told them I'm really trying to save to pay my car off or something along those lines so they did not pressure me to go.
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Re: I need to stop gambling. Day 1

Postby steveroller » Sun May 20, 2018 3:20 am

BadHabits28,

Glad you reached out, but it might be difficult to beat this all on your own. Lots of problem gamblers try to stop, but keep falling back into it and then trying to stop over and over for many years. I am not sure of your details, but if you have gambling buddies, you'd need to tell them you've decided to stop. If you gamble alone, then you need to self-exclude from whatever your doing: poker, casino, sports betting, horses, online, whatever.

If this is your first time trying to stop, be aware of the withdrawal symptoms. You are going to be cutting off your brain from the dopamine and endorphins "high" from gambling and it is not going to be happy. You will have irritability, restlessness, anxiety, so have strategies for these that don't involve rushing off to the nearest gambling venue. This is a sickness in your brain and it will take willpower to beat. Having said all of this, you can do it! You reached out for help and that's the first step.
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