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Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby SYC » Thu Feb 11, 2016 10:41 am

Hi there guys!
I don't quite know how to explain my situation but basically I am a 19 yr old that got into online sports betting a few months ago. My main purpose of sports betting was to earn extra money as I thought it was easy since I follow sports so closely anyway, But boy did overestimate everything!

My first big bet was $200 ( which is a lot to me as I am a student) on rugby which I lost, after that loss I promised my mother and friends that I would never bet again. Fast forward 3 months and I am on summer holiday, I decide to give sports betting another go since I kept seeing the ' $20 into 20k' ads all over facebook ( did not pay for any tips, just tried myself). Long story short , I tried to replicate that and once I lost I tried again, and again and again. Until I got frustrated and started betting larger amounts. $100 - lost, then I got frustrated and bet $300 and lost . After the $100 all I wanted to do was to break even and quit, I just wanted the money that I had lost to be back in my pocket so I can quit with no hard feelings; As I am a student this was a lot of money to me.

When I lost the money today, I felt really sick and sad; almost like I had lost a family member. I didn't keep the promise to my mom or my friends. I was tempted to tell my mother but I didn't want to break her heart. So I decided to search up forums and ask for help. I lost in total about $1000, and most of that was from today. I was tempted to throw in another $100 tomorrow to get my money back but deep down I know that I should stop here and now. For some reason I always think about money, I always dream about me being rich and really successful in the future and I thought I could do that through sports bets by using compounding. I don't know why, but I keep thinking about having more money and wanting nice cars and a big house ( when I'm only 19 ). All of these thoughts are distracting me from what I should be doing, which is studying and enjoying my youth and uni life.
I don't really know what I am trying to say, but I think I do need some help. I have read many stories on here where people say they wish they quit early. I hope to do that with the help of members of this forum :)

P.s Really sorry about the long read, i just feel sad at the moment and don't wanna hurt my parents so I am trying to go through this on my own. i am only 3 months in and I think it is time to quit permanently
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby GamblingStories » Thu Feb 11, 2016 12:12 pm

Hi SYC,

I've been in your shoes, I know exactly what you're referring to.
I'm almost 31 years old, started gambling at the age of 16.

I am sure you look at sports betting as opportunity to make extra income, but it's not ...
I know you must probably think already that casino games like roulette and slots are not for you because these are random based games - but sports betting is different, you might think, right?

You might think sports betting relies on your skills or knowledge or both ... that only if would investigate the match or the live lines properly you would make tons of money ... you might think the line is +5 for this team or the over/under in the rugby game is over/under 40.5 and you can pick it in live for 28.5 which is a "bargain" considering the original line is so far away from it...

You might think about so many opportunities, think that sports betting is the easiest way to make extra income from home, no need to work, you would get your car and fulfill your dreams - but all these thoughts, all those feelings, all those emotions are going to lead you to one thing and one thing only - DISASTER.

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Now let me burst your bubble about sports betting.

Sports betting does invovle skills/knowledge, and so is poker, and so is horse racing or other forms of gambling such as the stock market, currencies and so forth.

The problem is dealing around this "world" of sports betting = is injecting drugs into your brain, and it's not a question of maybe - dealing with the world of sports betting = is the same as injecting drugs into your brain.

All these thoughts around sports betting are from the drugs you get from taking part of it ... and the question is how to stop ...

You need to realize that these are drugs.
You need to realize that the world of sports betting is a world of gambling that is designed to make you lose money, it is designed to make you chase losses, it is designed to make you bet more than you can afford, and it is designed to make you bet endlessly.

It's a demon, it's the devil ... it's even worse than casino games if you ask me, because with casino games it's all based on random results, but this here, sports betting - gives you the illusion that it is based on yourself - and it's not ... it's not something you can control. It is a world that is designed to put you out of control.

Imagine that you are a developer writing a script ... can the script dictate to the developer what to do? Of course not! Can the script control the developer?! No!
Same thing here - this world of sports betting is designed to control you ... that is how it's designed.

Eventually it's no different than any other forms of gambling ...
Forget about making "extra income" with it.
Forget about chasing your losses or earning back your losses with it ... even if you would have managed to get back those losses you wouldn't stop there, it's a guarantee, I promise you ... you might stop for a year or two but you would get back to it.

You have to stop it now, you have to put it behind you, and forget about this world.
You must do it for your own good.

I am telling you as a person who is sorry for placing the first wager at the age of 16.
And I'm not in debts, I didn't hit rock bottom thankfully ... but this world of sports betting could destroy my life or could have destroyed my life if I hadn't seeked help so many times.

I'm telling you - stay away from it ... extra income would never ever come from it.
There are people who made even a few millions in sports betting - and lost it all ... I know one, I can give you a link to a Youtube video if you wanna see it, it's just in a foreign language ... but it doesn't matter really ... you gotta understand .... you don't and shouldn't get into dealing with a system that is designed to control you.

You need to be on your own.
Yes, you want nice things in life - but they won't come from gambling.
Try to innovate something, to be creative, innovative - this would help you make more money than others ... but it won't come from gambling.

Please do it for your own good.
Stay away from it and try to block any means or access to your sports betting websites, ask the website to self-exclude you on a permanent basis.

If you use Skrill or Neteller - ask them to close your account on a permanent basis.
Don't sign up with any other site - call your bank and tell the bank to block gambling transactions if possible (or threat to move to a different bank).

You're still very young ... you got lots ahead of you ... don't do this please, just don't.
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby uskat » Thu Feb 11, 2016 7:09 pm

ty gambling stories
I really grasped a good philosophy/understanding of skill based vs. random - the different traps w/same end result
pls keep posting
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby SYC » Thu Feb 11, 2016 10:18 pm

Thank you so much for your reply gamblingstories :) I really appriciate it. Last night I had a lot of bad dreams about losing the 1k, I felt really sick. When I woke up I was a bit sweaty and couldnt think about anything othet than how i lost that 1k. I am not to sure what kind of feeling it is but it doesn't feel nice at all. Your statement about how it never ends is true I believe, when people win they want to win more and more, eventually you are bound to lose. That is what I didn't realise. Seeing all the ads on facebook about easy wins didnt help, all they did was fuel the situation.

I was wondering how I could look past it and not care about the 1k that I lost so that I can move on?
Also should I stay away from gambling full stop? For example if mum and sister were to go to the casino for a bit of fun during holidays should I just not go? I have never been to casino btw. Thank you brothers! :)
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby Aries411 » Thu Feb 11, 2016 10:50 pm

Great post GS!

There are so many ways gambling gets you hooked and taking advantage of the thought that you have some 'skill' or 'knowledge' that other may not have is another trap.

SYC, I was a very heavy sports better as well and I wish I could show you all your future pain if you continue down this path. Your knowledge and desire to quit is well beyond your years and I applaud you for that! I could give you all the advice about stopping and strategies but it is hard to grasp its severity being so young. Long story, short - It ruins your life! Stay the heck away from it and don't try to think it'll make you money!!

I guess its like when I try to teach my students (im a teacher) the importance of certain concepts in High school that they will need in University. They think 'whatever' and don't put in the proper effort. This eventually comes back to haunt them years down the road. Its hard to teach 'experience' when you are not at that stage yet....

I hope you stay away from gambling and continue to read and post on this forum. It has helped many!
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby Stopgambling2015dec » Thu Feb 11, 2016 11:09 pm

tHe best time to quit gambling is today.not tommorrow,not next week, not next month,not next year! It is now ,it is today! No shortcuts in life except to have a decent job ,make a business and live normal.
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby SYC » Thu Feb 11, 2016 11:23 pm

Hi all thank you for the replys :) I am very grateful that you all support me. Last night I had many dreams about me losing the 1k, I felt sick and sad during those dreams. When I woke up I was sweaty and all I could think about was how I lost that money. There was a slight urge to try and get that money back but I know I cant and should never go back to that dark place.

I am trying to get over the fact that I lost that 1k so quickly, how do i go about doing that? It is hard because that is on my mind all the time.

And when you guys say to never gamble again does that include never going to casinos and stuff ever aswell?
(never been to a casino btw)

Thank you guys ! From the bottom of my heart :)
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby blue_green_lake » Fri Feb 12, 2016 2:07 am

SYC wrote:Thank you guys ! From the bottom of my heart

I am trying to get over the fact that I lost that 1k so quickly, how do i go about doing that? It is hard because that is on my mind all the time.


SYC, you are welcome, from this board. You help us as much as we help you.

SYC, you have to realize that regrets about your losses are the most dangerous thing.

It is best to accept your losses as a form of tuition ... for lessons on life. See it as a cheap lesson, that you now have this insight that you can pass on to your future children. The more you dwell on your losses, the more tempted you are to go back to gambling.

SYC wrote:And when you guys say to never gamble again does that include never going to casinos and stuff ever as well? (never been to a casino btw)


Gambling will never pay off. That is just a fact. Casinos give an impression of "easy money," "good times," etc., but that is the furthest thing from the truth. It is more like a den of drug addicts. People there are very sad. Don't become one of them.
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby SYC » Fri Feb 12, 2016 4:09 am

What are the beat ways to mentally let the 1k go? I am finding it a bit difficult. Thank you
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Re: Is it best to quit when you are young? How?

Postby GamblingStories » Fri Feb 12, 2016 6:01 am

SYC wrote:What are the beat ways to mentally let the 1k go? I am finding it a bit difficult. Thank you


one post above this one - blue green lake gave you a great advice how to mentally let go of the losses.

You dwell on a loss of $1k - some people have lost 6 figures ($XXX,XXX) in gambling and even more than that! (I think throughout lifetime although it's not documented but I believe I've lost around $150,000 throughout lifetime - do you want to get there?)

You pay too much attention to the loss of $1k - that's what I told you earlier - these are drugs in your brain, whatever you go through is the effect of those drugs.

So I don't want to be so blunt but I think I have to so let me tell you this:
Cut any access to cash, do it now, you're on drugs, let your mother or anyone you trust to keep the access for money, you're in a terrible state right now (from my perspective) and I don't think you would make it on your own - you need someone you trust to take the access to deposit or gamble away from you, the sooner the better.
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