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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby HokusaiPhillies » Sat Feb 02, 2019 2:00 am

I feel like today has been a quiet turning point for me. I did have a gambling dream last night, but rather than it being one that gives me false, positive memories, it forced me to "play the tape forward" after a few rough days where the idea of going to the casino did start to seem tempting.

I dreamt that I decided to go, lost, and called out sick from work because I was too depressed. I remember thinking "so 2019 is going to be more of the same..." and was devastated. I felt so much relief when I woke up and was able to take the day by the balls and say hello to the weekend with a smile on my face.

I feel like I'm flexing my discipline muscle, and I'm getting results in other aspects of my life as well. This isn't to say that my gambling was a result of me being lazy -- thoughts like are deeply untrue and tend to actually lead me to gambling via guilt. But I was paralyzed by my raw emotions, and now I feel there is a serene barrier between my actions and my feelings. It's still not very strong, but I'm working at it day by day.
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby eightiesheaven » Sun Feb 10, 2019 10:25 pm

NewSunRising wrote:I found a ton of good advice on this forum and I would like to pass on some of the methods that helped me get through the first few months of my recovery . I tried a lot of different things to battle my gambling urges - some worked , some didn't . I kept the ones that did and continued to search for new things to aid me in my fight .

These are some of the things what worked for me :

I put $100 dollars on a grocery store gift card that could not be redeemed for cash so I at least had food for the month . This took away a big chunk of stress - at least I didn't have to worry about how I was going to feed myself .

I cut up my credit cards . It was hard - my addiction fought me tooth and nail . When I finally did it I felt three things at once - panic , regret and relief .

I totaled up my debt - every penny - and looked at it every day . That was sobering and motivating .

I "paid" myself $1.00 at day for each day I didn't gamble . In the first weeks , that kept me going . I really looked forward to putting that dollar in the piggy bank every night when I got home .

I stopped referring to my gambling as "playing" . My addiction is to slot machines . The word "playing" implies something fun , innocent and harmless . What I was doing was none of those things - it was gambling , pure and simple .

I accepted that the money I lost was gone for good , there was no chance of winning it back and attempting to do so was only keeping me trapped in my addiction .

I accepted that I have a gambling addiction and I can never , ever gamble again , no matter what kind of lies my addiction told me .

I told a friend that I have a gambling addiction . This helped me tremendously . My secret was out - I was accountable now . I have a lifeline if I need it .

I "spent" almost all my money on payday by throwing every possible cent onto bills and debt as soon as it hit the bank . I filled my gas tank immediately . I left myself " almost broke " . I found it much easier to deal with the urges when I actually had no money . 4 months later , I am still doing this . I leave myself just enough to get to the next pay day and my debts are going down fast . In the meantime ...

I listened to a hypnosis tape every night for the first month . It calmed me down , enforced a positive message and helped me deal with my urges . There are dozens of these videos on the Internet . I tried them all until I found one that worked well for me . It is still my go-to when I have thoughts of gambling .

I posted here a lot . It was healing to unburden myself . I discovered more things that I wanted to say , and I gained a lot of strength and insight into myself by posting them .

The biggest thing for me was this - I made a battle plan . I wrote it all down and tried everything . I rewarded myself for the little victories . I set short term goals for myself and celebrated when I achieved them . One Day At A Time is not just a saying . It's a goal . It's doable .

I avoided everything related to gambling - I wouldn't even drive by a casino . I deleted every "play for free" site from my computer and replaced them with online jigsaw puzzles and solitaire games .

I spent the first few payday weekends barricaded in my apartment . I couldn't trust myself to go out and not gamble . I slept , I cleaned , I did movie marathons . I tried new recipes . I took walks around my neighborhood with NO money in my pocket and plugged into my hypnosis tape the instant I felt the urges come on .

Please share what worked for you . We all need every weapon we can get .




Thanks for this!! I need all the help I can get!
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Mon Feb 11, 2019 11:39 am

You're welcome Eightiesheaven !

Feel free to add any tips or ideas of your own as you work out your battle plan . My motto is " Try everything ! " :D
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby eightiesheaven » Tue Feb 12, 2019 12:23 am

Thanks again! I don't really have any tips but I sure have learned some from this forum. Glad I found it!
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