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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby HokusaiPhillies » Sat Feb 02, 2019 2:00 am

I feel like today has been a quiet turning point for me. I did have a gambling dream last night, but rather than it being one that gives me false, positive memories, it forced me to "play the tape forward" after a few rough days where the idea of going to the casino did start to seem tempting.

I dreamt that I decided to go, lost, and called out sick from work because I was too depressed. I remember thinking "so 2019 is going to be more of the same..." and was devastated. I felt so much relief when I woke up and was able to take the day by the balls and say hello to the weekend with a smile on my face.

I feel like I'm flexing my discipline muscle, and I'm getting results in other aspects of my life as well. This isn't to say that my gambling was a result of me being lazy -- thoughts like are deeply untrue and tend to actually lead me to gambling via guilt. But I was paralyzed by my raw emotions, and now I feel there is a serene barrier between my actions and my feelings. It's still not very strong, but I'm working at it day by day.
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby eightiesheaven » Sun Feb 10, 2019 10:25 pm

NewSunRising wrote:I found a ton of good advice on this forum and I would like to pass on some of the methods that helped me get through the first few months of my recovery . I tried a lot of different things to battle my gambling urges - some worked , some didn't . I kept the ones that did and continued to search for new things to aid me in my fight .

These are some of the things what worked for me :

I put $100 dollars on a grocery store gift card that could not be redeemed for cash so I at least had food for the month . This took away a big chunk of stress - at least I didn't have to worry about how I was going to feed myself .

I cut up my credit cards . It was hard - my addiction fought me tooth and nail . When I finally did it I felt three things at once - panic , regret and relief .

I totaled up my debt - every penny - and looked at it every day . That was sobering and motivating .

I "paid" myself $1.00 at day for each day I didn't gamble . In the first weeks , that kept me going . I really looked forward to putting that dollar in the piggy bank every night when I got home .

I stopped referring to my gambling as "playing" . My addiction is to slot machines . The word "playing" implies something fun , innocent and harmless . What I was doing was none of those things - it was gambling , pure and simple .

I accepted that the money I lost was gone for good , there was no chance of winning it back and attempting to do so was only keeping me trapped in my addiction .

I accepted that I have a gambling addiction and I can never , ever gamble again , no matter what kind of lies my addiction told me .

I told a friend that I have a gambling addiction . This helped me tremendously . My secret was out - I was accountable now . I have a lifeline if I need it .

I "spent" almost all my money on payday by throwing every possible cent onto bills and debt as soon as it hit the bank . I filled my gas tank immediately . I left myself " almost broke " . I found it much easier to deal with the urges when I actually had no money . 4 months later , I am still doing this . I leave myself just enough to get to the next pay day and my debts are going down fast . In the meantime ...

I listened to a hypnosis tape every night for the first month . It calmed me down , enforced a positive message and helped me deal with my urges . There are dozens of these videos on the Internet . I tried them all until I found one that worked well for me . It is still my go-to when I have thoughts of gambling .

I posted here a lot . It was healing to unburden myself . I discovered more things that I wanted to say , and I gained a lot of strength and insight into myself by posting them .

The biggest thing for me was this - I made a battle plan . I wrote it all down and tried everything . I rewarded myself for the little victories . I set short term goals for myself and celebrated when I achieved them . One Day At A Time is not just a saying . It's a goal . It's doable .

I avoided everything related to gambling - I wouldn't even drive by a casino . I deleted every "play for free" site from my computer and replaced them with online jigsaw puzzles and solitaire games .

I spent the first few payday weekends barricaded in my apartment . I couldn't trust myself to go out and not gamble . I slept , I cleaned , I did movie marathons . I tried new recipes . I took walks around my neighborhood with NO money in my pocket and plugged into my hypnosis tape the instant I felt the urges come on .

Please share what worked for you . We all need every weapon we can get .




Thanks for this!! I need all the help I can get!
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Mon Feb 11, 2019 11:39 am

You're welcome Eightiesheaven !

Feel free to add any tips or ideas of your own as you work out your battle plan . My motto is " Try everything ! " :D
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby eightiesheaven » Tue Feb 12, 2019 12:23 am

Thanks again! I don't really have any tips but I sure have learned some from this forum. Glad I found it!
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby tserafin062991 » Tue Mar 12, 2019 2:14 am

Hey there, I read over a lot of the posts yall have posted and its awesome that you guys have this. I've learned I am totally powerless over stopping scratch offs. I won 1,000 a few weeks ago and since then I have spent not only all of that but probably 2 or 3 thousand more easy. Its disgusting at this rate I will never get ahead in life. I tell myself i'm done i'm done i'm done, then I picture seeing that little win all symbol or multiplier and it draws me back. Then the ol' well I've already bought 2 the next ones got to be the winner then end up buying the whole roll and when I cash that in spend that as well. My dad owns a family landscaping company and I make decent money and my bills are relatively low but I can't even make it past 1,000 hell even 500 dollars in the bank because of the tickets. It's depressing me horribly and I have not been able to stop. Also I should mention I am in recovery for drugs and alcohol as well so addiction is just all over me. Like some people have said in part I don't even care about what I win when I win I just want to play more win again, get that rush. Thanks so much for this site, I just bought my last roll of $20.00 tickets an hour ago, I lost $200.00 today and i'm so sick of this. Thanks for listening
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby paulbet » Wed Mar 13, 2019 12:15 am

The best strategy I can currently think of is to spend ALL my cash at start of month on bills and food and lodge balance to wifes account
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby Daisyanne17 » Wed May 01, 2019 7:13 pm

I am now just starting my long fight to beat my gambling addiction I have destroyed my family and any trust they had in me. Reading some of your posts fill me with confidence I can to beat this addiction. I would like to say well done to the people doing well so far and hope one day I can turn round and say I will be gamble free
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Wed May 01, 2019 9:13 pm

Welcome Daisyanne and well done on making the decision to remove gambling from your life .

We all deserve a life without addiction . It's a long journey and often a hard one but we will be with you every step of the way . You can do this ! Feel free to start your own thread in the forum and post whenever you need support or encouragement or even just to vent . We've all walked this road ourselves and you are not alone in this fight .
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Re: Strategies for staying Gamble Free

Postby Karolina3 » Mon Oct 14, 2019 6:46 am

NewSunRising,
These are all great tips! Thank you.

It is also important how you look at things. It is good to start thinking about casinos and their staff as your enemies instead of friends. They are there to TAKE your money and TAKE you for a ride. Even the dealers hate gambling and they see us as a fools or a sick persons. Deep down they don't respect us.
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