Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

That is awesome family first, congrats on the non smoking and the non gambling. I am happy to say i just passed 120 days gamble free. I am having a dilemma, my brother in law invited my wife and I to his wife's birthday party. The issue is that he is having it at the casino. I know I am strong enough to go and not gamble but I am not sure if I should even put myself in that position. It might be too early in my recovery to test myself like this. My brother in law is not aware of my addiction and I see no reason to tell him. I also do not want to be disrespectful and not go.

NSR, a big thank you to you for your support always.

Familyfirst, keep up the good in your hobbies, and away from addictions.

UnluckyHank wrote: It might be too early in my recovery to test myself like this. My brother in law is not aware of my addiction and I see no reason to tell him. I also do not want to be disrespectful and not go.

I recall my last relapse, it was a relative's birthday (also just before my birthday) when we went to buy lottery tickets (although I didn't want to spend a dime initially). Although this was not my main game, but it gave me ideas (triggered) on how to get back in my other main play.

Hi Hank ,

Congratulations on 120 days !

I feel like it is too soon . You may get through the day without gambling but like RicardoG noted , it will likely be triggering . Remember those first few weeks of recovery when your addiction was bombarding you with nearly non-stop gambling urges ? There's a very high risk of you getting catapulted back into that situation . Whether you gamble or not , it could end up feeling like you have to start the battle all over again .

Plead illness , send apologies and a nice gift , then offer to get together when you're " feeling better " .

People have birthdays every year . Your recovery comes first .

I totally agree with NSR on the solution.

I personally wouldn't risk myself or give that chance of any relapse.
You come first in this case.

The birthday party at the casino is tomorrow night. I know I can handle it but I don't want to. It will make me feel uncomfortable. The only other problem is i do not lie so i dont want to make something up. I think i am going to give them a vague excuse that is not a lie. In the long run i think it is best.

I think you're making a good choice Hank . In the early days , our state of recovery is fragile and it's a battle to stay strong even when we're nowhere near a casino .

I believe this decision will serve you well in the long run .

I agree NSR. I think my fiance knew I was having trouble with this. She told me she was not in the mood to go but I really think she was giving me an easy out. I feel good because there were no lies and I did not put myself in a compromising situation. The struggle continues but I feel like this was a win. I am sure there will be many more to come and I will address them when they do. Thank you everyone for your support. I have to run because i am taking my daughters roller skating. It feels good to be able to appreciate the little things in life.