Rape fetish, does anyone recognize this?

Hi eveyone, I'm new here. I usually never post anything on a forum, so this is my first post ever.
I usually deal with stuff by telling my friends about it, but I can't tell them this so I'm posting it here!

I am female and I'm 21 years old. I've known I had a rape fetish since I started being interested in sex (so around 12 I think). I have never been raped or anything like that by the way! (And it's really not just a single fantasy!)
I really want to do that stuff with someone but I can't find anybody to do it with, and I feel like I'm never satisfied with the sex I'm having

I feel like nobody else has this fetish, so does anybody recognize this??

I don't KNOW, but I'd think a rape fantasy fairly common.

I've fantasized being raped a time or two.

Since you think about it a LOT, certainly sounds like a bit of a fetish to me.

When you say you don't have anyone to do this with, I'm assuming you mean a partner that would engage in role play? Is this something you've ever thought about advancing to a sex partner, suggesting to them you might like a little fantasy played out?

English is not my first language so, sorry if I'm a little hard to understand! I'll try my best


I think you are right and that many people have fantasized about being raped. For me it's very different and more like a fetish.

Yes, I mean a partner to engage in role play with. I actually have told 1 partner. He was into other 'extreme' stuff, so I figured I could tell him, but he never really wanted to do the role play with me..

I have been searching for somebody that shares the same fetish or would be interested to try it at least, but I find it very difficult to find anyone! (That being said, I'm not fixated on this problem or anything, it just comes up from time to time.) In my experience, most people that are into something other than 'vanilla' sex are into the pain inflicting thing. I really don't like pain, so I feel like it's hard for me to get closer to what I want from sex with somebody. I feel like it's never really enough and that there is nobody that will ever give me what I need in this aspect.

So, do you exclusively like to be the "victim"?

Yes.

There is another thing that I really need to tell you guys.. Because I feel a little bad about it..
I have been 'misusing' a friend of mine.. He has some kind of condition like sleepwalking, but then with sex. It's called sexsomnia I think, and it's the closest I can get to my needs by sleeping over at his place. He has no idea what my intensions are when I stay the night, and he thinks it's stupid that I'm willing to stay at his place because he knows about his condition..

I really don't know what to do to make things a little bit easier for me. I feel so frustrated. I wish a had a foot fetish or something like that instead. It seems a lot easier to find somebody for that

Okay.... Maybe it's just me, but nonconsensual sex with someone who is asleep..... is a no-no..... Whether it's someone who's passed out from drinking too much, or someone with a sex sleepwalk condition, incapacitated is incapacitated.... You put yourself in a precarious position, methinks. I'd be careful about that.

I think you're right. Although I forgot to tell that this person told me that he is (still) in love with me. (We have had 'normal' sex about 2 years ago, now we are just friends.) And it's not something that I have done a lot, just 2 times.. I still think it's wrong that I used him that way. I feel pretty bad about it

Haha I feel a little bit crazy saying all this stuff on here, but it feels good to finally tell somebody! So thank you for reacting at all!

Just wanting to make sure you don't get yourself in a tight spot, sweets.

And that's what PF is for. Better out, than in!

Alice00 wrote:I still think it's wrong that I used him that way. I feel pretty bad about it

I would consider telling him. As I see it, you weren't quite honest. When you said to Maligan that you were exclusively interested in being the victim. I may be misreading but you seem to be describing committing a form of rape.

Unless he's consented while awake, you're sexually assaulting him. If you talk to him and he's fine, then it's all good. If you talk to him and he's upset, that's reasonable on his part. And you need to deal with that openly and honestly. But this can't go on as it is.