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Re: The Narcissistic Mother

Postby realityhere » Sat Apr 20, 2019 12:57 am

Sorry that this is a late reply. Does your country have any legal recourse for harassment or stalking by a relative? IF possible, such charges can put a dent into your mom's pursuing revenge or hoover tactics, as such public records show up on her record and have consequences such as heavy fines or imprisonment, if caught. Just something to consider if you wish to consider legal action. Start by keeping a record of all her phone calls, emails, visits, etc to build up a proof record when you report to the authorities about her actions. It won't totally stop your mom, but it may take the claws out of her when she realizes the legal and financial implications.

OTOH your other half has a point about ignoring her. This may mean moving to a new address, with new phone #, new everything, including new jobs about which you don't inform your mother or her monkeys, including possibly your sister, it's like dropping off the map. A rather drastic measure, as it's a last resort to cut off family. That's a nuke option that not many ppl take, but it has worked for some.
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Re: The Narcissistic Mother

Postby narcfreeandhappy » Mon Nov 08, 2021 1:58 pm

This is my mother exACTLY. Anyone still struggling with this in 2021. I feel like this coronavirus pandemic has brought all the narcissists out to play. Once you see it you can never unsee it. My life will never be the same. Hoping I can meet like minded individuals because i feel people who haven't had a narc abused childhood will never truly understand me. Would love to chat with anyone who relates.
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Re: The Narcissistic Mother

Postby Snaga » Tue Nov 09, 2021 5:46 am

(thread moved to SOFF forum)

Tell someone today that you love them; for Life is short. But scream it at them in Klingon; for Life is also terrifying and confusing.

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Re: The Narcissistic Mother

Postby Philonoe » Sun Nov 21, 2021 10:13 am

I grew in an environment with strong narcissistic dynamics. My mother acted as to be center of attention - be positive or negative. She took much space.
Of course family drama continued as adult. As if dynamics is there. Be autonomous is sort of blaspheme. Taking distance too.

I want to live my life. I don't want to be forced to carry what doesn't belong to me, nor to cut all ties.
When I'm able to set my boundaries, after much guilttripping I feel better.
I'm prone to be guilttripped and it's long way to protect oneself without removing all feelings.
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