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Something I've noticed about my older brother

Postby CynicalCritic » Mon Nov 22, 2021 1:49 pm

Ever since I was a young kid my brother and I have always had fights. They could have been over a number of different things but whenever he absolutely blew his top it was due to one particular subject. He would explode and beat the ever loving heck out of me. I could call him anything else under the sun but this one particular subject and all would be fine. He would get into fights at school and was generally known as the "school bully" around the same time. Me, being meek and quiet and wishing to keep to myself saw this merely as an observer.

I remember one particular incident in elementary school where he lied to the teacher (and by virtue his whole entire class) about having a sibling he didn't have. I was dumbfounded as to why and questioned him about it years later and he quipped that it was to impress one particular girl in is class he happened to have a crush on. When he was caught out in the lie he ignored the subject.

When we both grew into being teenagers he was still the schoolyard bully with a chip on his shoulder but unlike when we were young kids he would needle me any chance he got at home and at school. Attack my appearance or anything he could behind my back to his classmates or anybody who was vaguely curious about me. He ended up getting expelled from school due to repeated fights with other students and ditching class to hang out with his friends at their houses.

Things were good for a while once he got into his first relationship as he treated me better than he did previously but at the same time I'd learned about his triggers and not to push his buttons. He was with one girl (now a woman) for eight years although they fought all the time and constantly broke up and got back together again. I later learned it was because he told his (then) girlfriend he didn't look at porn when in reality he was addicted to the material and spent a good chunk of every day looking at it. behind her back until he was caught several times but that wasn't what ended their relationship. What did it was his cheating that happened several different times with several different girls.

After the breakup he started to take drugs and is now violent and unpredictable. I get the impression he doesn't care for anybody but himself as he tells nobody anything and leaves home without warning to hang around the wrong sort of people. He's now gotten a criminal record for assault and barely avoided jail time for the offense.

I don't know what's wrong with him. It seems to me like has quite a few narcissistic qualities. He is very toxic. What's the deal?
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Re: Something I've noticed about my older brother

Postby CynicalCritic » Mon Nov 29, 2021 1:43 pm

Does anybody have any idea what's wrong with him? I also forgot to mention he burned our house down when he was 15...
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