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Can't let go of distractive behaviour

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Can't let go of distractive behaviour

Postby FWSW » Sat Apr 10, 2021 5:59 am

I am a new Health and Wellbeing Coach and I am currently working with a client who is not able to let go of distractive behaviour. I know from personal experience that when we live with a certain behaviour for a long time then we are scared to let go because we know how to deal with the current behaviour even if it is not what we want. However, we do not know what it feels like to be on the other side. It is not clear whether it will be any better or whether will be adrift. The worry of potentially being out of control feels overwhelming. It is therefore scary to let go of the known to venture into the unknown. I also know though that had I not made that step I would have never got over my eating disorder. Now I would like to help my client make that leap but I am not sure how. They are so scared of letting go and it is very painful to watch when the resolutions are so obvious to anyone but them. Does anyone know how I could approach this?
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Re: Can't let go of distractive behaviour

Postby Snaga » Sat Apr 10, 2021 6:45 pm

Hello, and welcome!

Without knowing more about the person, I'm not sure what anyone here could tell you- we're a peer support forum, so no one is here to give you professional advice on how to go forward, we only know what we all live in, so to speak. Is it a nervous habit, or a self-destructive habit they have?

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