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NPD family member

Postby ocnlvr83 » Tue Nov 05, 2019 6:50 pm

I believe my sister has NPD, but she won't see a medical professional to be diagnosed. She is 34, living with our parents and one of our younger sisters in their apartment, and has been increasingly volatile in the last several months. She has always been "off", but our dad has always seen her behavior as "a phase," and has never pressed the issue that she see someone.

In the last few months, she has been telling outright lies to friends and acquaintances that she was abused as a kid (she wasn't--it was the just the two of us for the first seven years of her life, and I'd remember something like that), that our father is being manipulated by our mother, she has threatened to murder them more than once, and I am constantly living with the fear of the police showing up at my door or calling me to tell me my family has been murdered or severely maimed.

My dad won't see reason. He knows she needs to be seen, but he won't push her to see someone, especially since she is a grown adult, but mainly because he refuses to acknowledge that any of his kids have mental illness (yet he loves to tell us that we're all mental when he gets pissed off). She is seriously threatening the family, and I don't know how much more I can take.

I just needed somewhere to unload, so thanks for reading this, and if you have any advice, please let me know.
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Re: NPD family member

Postby realityhere » Sun Nov 10, 2019 12:10 am

The sister is 34 and your father says she's going thru a "phase". Puh-lease, she's an adult and is accountable for her behavior now that she's no longer a child. She's way past the age of going thru a "phase".

Please consider family counseling for either yourself and/or family members, even though your sister will likely not attend such sessions. You can't push other ppl into counseling if they don't think there's anything wrong about themselves or their children. (Sounds like dad doesn't want a bad reflection on him?) But a professional can help you/family members understand the family dynamics contributing to your sister's behavior and learn tactics on how to deal with her when her actions turn violent.

In the meantime, please advise your parents/ other family members about always keeping car keys available in their pockets and have an exit strategy, so they can leave a volatile situation quickly. For a family member who is a minor, that person should always know of an exit strategy, regardless of what parents may or may not do.
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