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Is it counterproductive to talk to someone in therapy about

Postby mo mo » Fri Oct 18, 2019 11:23 pm

Hello I have a cousin I grew up with and he developed some mental health issues over the past few years. He sees a therapist regularly, he goes to a group, he takes medications, he spent some time at an inpatient facility, etc.

He still gets extremely upset at relatively normal people problems, to the point where he feels worthless.

I don't mean to downplay his predicament, I just get the impression that this treatment he's been getting for years isn't actually working, and he often reaches out to me to talk.

I'm concerned that I might give a certain opinion or tell him the wrong thing. It's not that I don't want to talk to him, I just don't really know what to say to him at this point.

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Re: Is it counterproductive to talk to someone in therapy about

Postby xdude » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:55 am

Hey mo mo,

Just my thoughts (not facts, just my own opinion).

I think it might be a misnomer to believe that everyone goes into therapy to 'get fixed', or that therapy can 'fix' all people. Some people go to manage issues they'll be dealing with for life. Not a fix, but management.

There is also a difference between someone who has had a relatively healthy life, then has a short term life crisis, and someone who has an essentially permanent mental health issue they have to struggle with. Examples of permanent could include Personality Disorders formed in early childhood, Schizophrenia (can be late onset), various syndromes that affect thinking, sometimes PSTD that is too traumatic to ever 'get over' entirely, addictions (e.g., alcoholism), and more.

As a kind of analogy, doctors cannot entirely fix someone who has lost a limb, or eye sight, hearing, etc. They can provide help improving the person's situation, and people who have experienced such losses may need on going help to cope.
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Re: Is it counterproductive to talk to someone in therapy about

Postby shimtie » Thu Oct 31, 2019 8:09 am

Smart statement there. Doesn't help if the client is also drinking a full case of Corona every other day. Not enough info here.
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