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Narcissistic abuse is starting to harm the children.

Postby Sunset16 » Sat Jun 15, 2019 5:37 am

I've been with my husband for over 15 years. I always felt like something was off, but I got really good at suppressing my feelings to keep the peace. Anytime I speak my mind or express any issues I have with him, he makes my life a living hell. Well tonight, I lost it.

My 5 year old daughter started to cry because her nail was hurting as it was too short, and my husband started telling her it was nothing and that she's fine. Then she started bawling and he made her go to her room. By this point, she started crying really hard to the point she sounded like she was going to vomit. Then my husband says "If you throw up on your carpet you are eating it!!"

I ran to her. Hugged her, and gave her a bandaid. She cried, telling me "dad doesn't even care". I calmed her down and then went to my husband and told him that he is abusive and I am not tolerating that from him. Then he went on a huge yelling rant about how I undermine his parenting and how he's just a "huge a$$" and I have no idea how to parent because the kids just take advantage of me.

Then he told me how he's hanging on to this relationship by a thread. Yet yesterday he told me he loves me so much and he's never going anywhere. I can't take it anymore.
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Re: Narcissistic abuse is starting to harm the children.

Postby realityhere » Wed Jun 19, 2019 2:17 am

You do suppression of feelings and behavior around your husband, obviously his reactions inhibit how you behave around him. Yet he finds your parenting style a way to upstage him behind his back--so he blows his stack. Perhaps jealousy over the attention the child gets, who knows.

Have you considered couples counseling?
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