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Help with bdp questions

Postby Cman81 » Wed Feb 06, 2019 7:00 pm

So I’ve been in a relation ship with someone that is undiagnosed with bdp for 21/2 years. Her mom is diagnosed and her older brother. We are on are third breakup. Both times previously it was the same cycle. She would start pushing me away for a few weeks, constantly think I’m doing something behind her back to the point she almost makes up things in her mind, and then things would end. Then she shuts me out completly. Won’t look at me, or talk to me, and just hates. Gets super uncomfortable talking about feelings toward me. Makes new friends, changes hair color, and recklessly parties and very promiscuous. Always after 5-6 weeks she then misses me, and calls me out of the blue, and then for months will be super affectionate. So this time I’m at week three of breakup. We now have a kid together so we have a little contact. Do I need to worry about her trying to come back, and does the cycle ever stop if untreated?
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Re: Help with bdp questions

Postby sparklestars » Thu Mar 21, 2019 12:05 pm

Hi Cman, I'm not a doctor but I do have a 19 year old diagnosed BPD daughter. Your ex needs to be evaluated by someone and properly diagnosed. I've spent 18 of the last 19 years taking my daughter to doctors, counselors, treatment facilities and hospitals. If your ex does have BPD, there is a chance they can get better. Then there are the buts... But without her diagnosis and professional help, you are in a bad situation. The entire process to get help makes me extremely sour. There isn't enough help out there and the people working in the field are exhausted. When it comes to BPD, that is one gray area where they seem to get shoved aside. No wonder they are so ticked off all the time. :evil: Noone understands them. My daughter now likes to yell at me "I Need to be validated, you need to validate that". It's a long hard road. BPD's hearts break in two and they are very hard to fix after a breakup. My daughter can't hold any relationship for more than 2 months.

Think of your child. That is who you need to think of first. Do everything you can to help your little one. Your ex is suffering from an illness she doesn't understand yet. From what you say, she sounds more bipolar to me. But, I'm no doctor, just a mom. I hope you can find somewhere to get her the help she needs. No, it will never stop unless you get her help.
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