PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND. BPD RESOLVED OR DIFFERENT PHASE?

Dear all,

I have been for a year and a half with someone. After a lot of thinking, I have reached the conclusion that it could be "quiet" BPD. Some of the symptons were self-harm, feelings of emptiness, isolation, sugar addiction, lack of self-esteem and mood swings, although never "acted out". These symptons had been there for 3 years.

The thing is that last month we broke up because I could not bare with the situation (also I was burnt out after a year and did not understand what BPD was). No, after a month and talking things through, we are somehow back. She presents barely symptoms, she has recovered relations with other people, she is on a strict diet. In short, she looks a different person. To be completely honest, the last months of the relationship showed improvement of symptons and she was feeling a higher sense of self-control. Yet, this sudden change looks too extreme to be real. Also, although she is able to realise what she has gone through, she has not been to therapy whatsoever, so it has been "spontaneous".

So the question is the following: can BPD symptons dissapear or reduce dramatically in only a month and a half, and without treatement? Is it part of a natural recovery or the break up has something to do (consciously or unconsciously)?

Perhaps more in short: are her symptons going or these kind of partial recoveries are normal in BPDs?

Seems to me like she's made an effort to work on herself to become a better person. Regardless if she has a personality disorder or not, this is commendable on her part. If I were you, I would do my best to encourge and support her. Have you done anything to better yourself?

Don't get caught up in trying to predict her behaviour. Actions speak louder then words.

Hey JTH,

Hard to know if someone has BPD, and even a professional would need time to come to that conclusion. If it is though, personally I am doubtful that someone with BPD just gets better spontaneously. They may go through some phases of improvement, but if the core issues haven't been addressed, they are still there and the symptoms likely to return.

That written, yea the advice to be supportive of her improvement in the now makes sense.