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Frustrated/Depressed and need some help please

Postby ripcurl09 » Wed Oct 02, 2019 12:34 pm

I have Peyronies that's turned into ED. I'm very, very frustrated. Because of my injury during sex causing not only the upward bend, but also a decent loss in length and girth. Before my accident, I was "normal to slightly bigger than normal size." I wasn't huge by any standards, but I was pretty happy with my penis size. I've tried the Soma Erect, the Penimaster Pro and now have been using the Restorex twice a day, with only a minor change. I use it to try and correct my curvature.

Now with the Peyronies, I am embarrassed by my size and shape of my penis. This is causing serious Erectile Dysfunction for me. I am very, very healthy. I mean extremely fit for a 46 year old man. I exercise 6 days a week, eat healthy, my blood pressure is great (117/78), very little body fat, etc. So my Erectile Dysfunction isn't physiological, it's psychological.

hen I wake up at night or in the morning with an erection, I immediately put hand on my penis to feel how hard it is, only to feel the change is size and be disappointed. When I masturbate, I can get a great erection and maintain it AS LONG AS I don't think about my ED issue, new penis shape and size.

In the past few months, I have had several very, very attractive women in my bed/house/etc. As we're making out, or I'm doing things to them, I get a good erection. But as soon as they try and touch me, I go soft. Mostly because I'm embarrassed about my penis now. No matter what they do to me with their hands/mouths/etc, I lose my erection. When I try and penetrate their vagina, I go soft.

Especially because my PY Disease has caused the very end of my penis to be softer than the rest. So I get more frustrated and embarrassed which leads to just going soft. Then I make some excuse about "being on antibiotics" or something similar as to why I can't keep an erection.
I'm VERY unselfish in sex, so use my mouth and hands on women to bring them to climax, so it's not a total loss.
But dear God I just want to have sex! I started seeing a girl recently and she is incredible in bed. We've spent several nights together and she tries hard to get me erect again with her mouth/hands and anything else that turns me on. But my penis just won't F^@$!ng react!! Even if I eat a few cialis and 100mg of Viagra and it does nothing to help. The second her hands or something touch me, he goes limp.

I'm willing to go to counseling, see a doctor, whatever it takes. I'm just at my wits end with this.

I posted this in a Peyronies Forum and was suggested that I open up to this girl about my issue. So I took the forum's advice and spoke with the woman about my PY Disease and other factors. She was totally cool with it, supportive and everything. I definitely feel more comfortable with her, BUT I'm still having erection issues.
I've stopped all medications that effect Erectile Dysfunction including my Propecia/Finasteride, any pain medication and also mirtazipine/remeron. I've dropped 10 pounds (I was never overweight, I work out and do cardio 5-6 days a week. I'm not bragging, but I am in incredible condition). I don't drink, don't smoke and don't do drugs.

I'm 46, I have to take Testosterone Cypionate twice a week, but a very low dose .15 ML at 200mg/ml. I also take 1mg of Anistrozole/Armidex once a week. All of this is prescribed by a doctor. My bloodwork shows my testosterone levels to be perfect.

Recently, My morning erections are harder than the have been for years in the past month, especially with removing those meds from my body.

But when I am with a woman, I stress about it before we are together, while we're together, etc. So I know it's all psychological.

I'm going to see a Eurologist in 2 weeks, but not too sure how they can help with the psychological side. I've been looking at licensed sexual counselors/therapist in my area.

I'd really, really appreciate any advice or suggestions on this. It's so frustrating. I am literally avoiding sex because of this. I mean I have a chance to date an incredibly beautiful and sensual girl, but my damn Erectile Dysfunction is not helping.

THank you!
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Re: Frustrated/Depressed and need some help please

Postby Flavio » Sat Dec 05, 2020 2:42 pm

ED is a multifactorial condition and there may be several causes (organic, psychogenic) at work in your case.

If you live in the United States, I suggest you go see a GREAT urologist that specializes in PD *mod edit*

Anxiety and depression are also major causes of ED and you may need to address them, as well. A urologist will also be able to help you with this.
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