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Is this erectile dysfunction?

Postby Sendhelp » Sat Apr 27, 2019 11:28 pm

I was with a girl for a couple of months. I liked her a lot and we talked about having sex a lot. I remember when talking to her about it or kissing her i would get so erect. Unfortunately i usually went home with blue balls and you know the rest. We Were only 16. Finally the day came where we would have sex however I couldnt get it up. Why?? I then started to get stressed out and i felt like i was trying to make myself get hard. It didnt work. We didnt try again after that and soon after broke up. I was devastated. Im still terrified to get into another relationship with a girl for fear of that happening again. Im 18 now. I basically avoid intimate situations with girls now and on the off chance i do end up kissing a girl. That is generally all thats on my mind. Is this performance anxiety ed?? Anyones input appreciated. Has anyone experienced this?
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Re: Is this erectile dysfunction?

Postby Snaga » Sun Apr 28, 2019 2:33 am

hey and welcome.

Well, answer me this. Morning wood, yes or no? Masturbation? If you are waking up hard or semihard, if you still masturbate and get hard... oh yeah. I mean, this sounds like anxiety, yes. I know I have problems with performance anxiety, but I also know for my age (a lot older than you) I'm okay, because I still will wake up enough to realise I'm hard or hardish, I still can play with it. It's just.. getting in that situation where okay we gotta step up to the plate.. and... crap....

The only think I know of, for me, is to if I can manage to completely get out of my own head, and just keep my mind on ANYTHING but the feeling that I'm obligated to get it up. I think, once you get that anxiety about erections in your head, it's darn hard to get it out, again. If you can get some kind of professional therapy, that'd be really good, I think. But unless you never ever get hard for anything, at any time, I'd be thinking anxiety and your mind messing with you.
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Re: Is this erectile dysfunction?

Postby Sendhelp » Sun Apr 28, 2019 11:33 pm

I rarely get morning wood, i masturbate quite a lot to be honest. I started with lesbian porn and moved onto more stuff over the years. Now sometimes if my minds off it i can get aroused to fantasy but if i cant take my mind off not getting it up. It doesnt happen. When i was with girls i used to get so erect and have no problems at all although i never actually engaged in intercourse before the first time (where i lost erection) after that i was too afraid of similar happening. This has been going on for 3 years now. Im still terrified it will happen again and its holding me back in life.
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Re: Is this erectile dysfunction?

Postby Snaga » Mon Apr 29, 2019 5:10 pm

Well, if you masturbate, and get hard for that, I don't see that it could be physical, although it might be a good idea to try going nofap, and see what happens with the morning erections.

Performance anxiety can be really pernicious. I mean, just the idea I'm being watched, and have to be hard just with them looking at me, is enough to knock the stiff out of me. It can be really frustrating, I know.
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