Really need some ED advice

First post, sorry if it's in the wrong place! I just want to hear about other people who have experienced ED in the past. I'm in a loving relationship for 6 months and have tried many times for sex but I have not been able to.

Physically, there is nothing wrong with me and have been to the GP to confirm this. When I was younger I did watch porn which I thought may have been a factor, but have abstained pretty much the whole time we have been together, bar a couple of slip ups.

This makes me think it must be to do with anxiety/confidence/ performance, yet I feel totally relaxed around her and honestly don't care about performance, if I get hard and cum after 5 seconds I'll take that rn! (And it's the kind of thing we'd both laugh at and not take seriously anyway)

So what I want to know is, from anyone else who has experienced ED, was there a 'eurika' moment, where is just worked and you've never looked back? Anything to do eg meditating or whatever at home?



Short: No medical problems, not watching porn, not masturbating, not feeling anxious and tried Viagra and still nothing. Any ED advice?

Hi
In short, no there’s not really a quick fix for psychological ED. The only time I’ve experienced that ah feeling and never looked back was when I was 18 and had sex with my now wife for the first time. The girl before her I had sex issues with so it felt really liberating and I didn’t have another issue for a couple years. Feel free to read my post if you haven’t but I still have work to do. I’m back having sex but most of the time I’m anxious doing it so I come really quick. I watch porn here and there but trying to quit fully my wife doesn’t like it at all anymore. I do meditate and take CBD which has been helping.

Josh

I am unsure if my story helps but here it is. MY ed started about 4 years ago. I am now 75 with a much younger, sexy Asian wife. I find her very desirable( so do others!) I have tried all the usual pills and injections to no avail. A friend told me about "penis envy". But its a solution unsuitable for many. In other words wife has sex with other man, then you try.It has worked for me on several occasions. My wife had sex with a friend while I peeped through the door. When he finished I took over and achieved a reasonable erection and very pleasurable sex. For my wife she enjoyed as double dipping. We have repeated about once a month with several male acquaintances. If you have moral qualms I suggest do not.

Follow Up my previous Post

MY wife felt that straight sex someone what demeaning, almost like an unpaid prostitute, feeling there should be some element of romance.
She asked that she could select partner in future and expect some form of wooing and seducing as ina more normal relationship.
Today she has lunch date and states no sex on first meeting. She will expect that element of romance first!

Hi,
from my experience I would suggest to figure out the actual cause first to get proper treatment. I always felt pills are more of a temporary cover-up instead of actual treatment so I never took any. I had ED in my mid twenties and the visit at the doctor's was not any helpful.

In any case, my ED disappeared after I took some time off from work. Turns out I was just too stressed.

Since you believe that your ED is likely pshchogenic, maybe consider seeing a sex therapist. They have tons of experience with that stuff!

All the best!

Was in a bad marriage for years (now two years post divorce) and heard many emasculating things while being married. I basically learned that it was not okay to look at a woman as a sexual being and that I should only be focusing on what is needed to run a home, pay bills, be a father and work. As a result I resorted to porn to satisfy my desire for sex, though this was actually to my disadvantage. At this point I've been in a relationship for several months now and had marginal success with ED meds - firmness wasn't what I hoped and had been in younger years. Went on a quest to figure out what to do...which brought me to my first rockin experience last night. I hope this helps many who deal with this frustrating issue, so here goes with my suggestion and my story of hope.
The detriments and their fixes:
1) Porn - stop watching porn as it desensitizes your mind to the realistic beauty of a real partner. This could be a tough thing to do, but just try your best as removing the association of masturbation and porn will definitely help.
2) Death Grip - if you can stop masturbating then do so. If you must, then try masturbating using a lube, or using your hand or fingers in a way that more closely resembles the sensation of a vagina. The firm and rigorous grip of your hand and stroking is working against your ability to feel pleasure with your partner.
3) Exercise - try to get more cardio exercise to improve blood flow and circulation. If you're overweight like me (260lb - was 277lbs) then shedding some pounds and improving your circulation will not only help physically, it will also help mentally.
Kegel (pelvic floor) Exercises - since I was masturbating so much I never really needed to pump from my pelvic floor. The muscle that helps with maintaining an erection pinches off the return flow of blood from your penis, thereby causing a firm erection. If your erection has been maintained by means of over-stimulation from your Death Grip then this muscle will not be able to do the job it's supposed to when you're aroused by light and erotic stimulation. You may get hard, but then it's gonna disappear because the muscle it's strong. To exercise, pretend you're trying to hold back a fart and stop peeing mid-stream. Do this for three seconds and then relax for three seconds. Do it as often as you'd like, but the more the better. This will bring strength back to the muscle that will help with maintaining an erection.
4) NUTRITION - For libido and erectile function I have found some amazing results by making some nutritional changes. I have begun making and drinking smoothies with the right nutritional ingredients. So pick up a smoothie machine for $25 or $50 and then pick up these foods and give this a try. Here's what I put in my 16.9oz smoothie: 6 ice cubes, half banana, 1 heaping tsp black maca powder (make sure it's black maca), 1 tsp cacao (not cocoa) powder, 1/2 tsp cinnamon, 2 tsp beet root powder, 1 heaping tsp unsweetened shredded coconut, 1 tsp local honey (make sure it is good quality stuff, not store brand junk), fill the rest with water and mix it for 30 seconds.

In addition to the smoothie/nutrition I also take 25mg of Sildenafil before sex, but as I said previously it would only produce mild firmness (even if I took 50mg), but this was only until I started with the nutrition and Kegel parts. Yesterday I did Kegels for about 15 minutes over the course of several hours and I also had a smoothie which included all the ingredients I listed previously. Last night I truly had THE BEST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE with my girlfriend since we've met (we've had sex and also tried to have sex about 30x so far), and it was the best sexual experience I've had in well over a decade. I attribute yesterdays results to the beet powder as it was the first time I had such firmness and the first time I included the beet powder in the smoothie. I'll also say that the black maca does an amazing job on the mental side of things, helping with libido and getting your mind back to being interested in sex and generating desire. Add in some Sildenafil to this and I bet you too will be rockin it, big time. As time moves on I'll be reducing and eventually eliminating the ED med.

So look up the black maca for helping to correct "post SSRI sexual dysfunction", look up the beet powder to help with improving availability of Nitric Oxide (needed for getting an erection) and look up the Kegels or pelvic floor exercises to help with building up the strength of the muscle that helps maintain an erection. I think about my own experience, exciting at first when you begin using porn following severe rejection in a marriage and how thereafter I got bored with porn, but continued to use it anyway. Then factoring the death grip and general desensitization of real stimuli because I could have my hand and any supermodel on the big screen. Incorporating all the changes I've outlined here, I look forward to a healthy sexual experience with my girlfriend going forward.

All my best to all you guys,
Daney