AFTER 3 YEARS OF TRYING EVERYTHING... NO SOLUTION FOUND.

Hello psychforum viewers, I turn my message to you as I'm completely desperate in looking for an answer to cure my ED.

Who am I? I am a 23 year old man, personality wise a very happy, outgoing, confident dude. I have no problem walking up to girls, dating them, going for sex. But every time I have sex I just can't get it up.

I tried to solve the ED with nofap, viagra, having sex with different girls to see if that's the problem, a testosterone test to see if my test levels were fine (seem to be normal). Still I just don't get horny. This is not different for when I'm home, I don't use porn as an escape or I'm not attracted to other gender at all. Like I have no desire for sex. Yes sounds alot like aseksuality altough that's not what I'm aiming for in life, I want to have a wife and kids one day that I can love you know... It botters me A LOT because I do want a relationship, I want to have a partner and make love with her.

So when I'm with a girl and we're about to have sex, even when she orally pleases me, it doesn't get hard. My dick remains very soft. When I have sex, I really LOVE the girl, it just doesn't show and it's very annoying. It's not gonna be anxiety related, as I said, I have no problem initiating sex and talking openly to the girls I'm suppose to have sex with about this. Altough I cannot explain them what exactly it is that stops me.

So what can I try more to solve this problem? What could solve it besides the things I've already tried. Sounds radical but what about testosterone injections, anyone tried that already? Open for any possibilities.

Thanks for reading this and helping me out!
swaggryd

I’ve tried injections, didn’t really work for me. Not going at it from a gay/straight perspective but have you experimented inside you mind of what if anything gets you aroused? People are into all sorts of things, a lot they don’t even know about until they start digging deeper than vanilla intercourse that everyone is “suppose” to have with each other. I for one would never consider anal until my now wife pushed it in there for me one night when I was high, now I love running the option. Comfort level for me is key, if I don’t think she’s into it I definitely get nervous and lose my erection. Or if I think she’s judging my performance, I lose feeling. It sometimes feels like I’m not attracted to her, then the gay question of course pops into my head. I say no to myself but on the flip side I’ve never been in any situation with a guy so who am I to say one way or the other with confidence? Do you look at an ugly plate of food and immediately know it’s going to taste like $#%^?
Keep us updated on your progress.
Josh