Men with ED make the best lovers ;)

Hi all

I just came across this forum as I was doing a little research into what my partner might like (yeah yeah I know I should just ask him!)

So here's a woman's perspective. I'm in my late 40's and have been sexually active since my late teens. I've mainly been in long term relationships, not really into one night stands or short flings. I've also been married and had children but am now divorced.

My sex life has always been enjoyable and I've never had any complaints or issues about partners I've been with or vice versa.

3 years ago I met a man who has erectile dysfunction and I can honestly say hand on my heart I'm having the best sex I've ever had with any man.

Kissing, touching, exploring and experimenting takes priority and it's amazing. In long term relationships it is very hard to give your partner a spontaneous passionate kiss without that immediately leading to sex. Foreplay in the past has been great but it's always been seen as a thing to get out of the way so 'proper sex' can happen. It can become dull, predictable and I for one don't always want to have penetrative sex just because I'm feeling aroused. This can be quite difficult for a man (with an erection) to understand and can lead to resentment.

My partner has had ed for most of his adult life and because of that he sure knows how to please a woman more than any man I've ever met.

We separated for a short time a year or so ago, I remember telling a friend of mine that the next man I met 'had' to have ed! It was essential as they make such good lovers. It really is true, not all women want to be woken up with the pressure of an erection dug in their back!

So, please, take note there are many many women out there who will find you a god damn turn on! I know it's important you feel satisfied and receive enjoyment too and that's where the experimenting comes in I'll spare you all the details. Good luck!

It's reassuring to read your post. As a single male suffering total ED following prostate cancer I am finding it difficult to get into a relationship. A couple of potential partners have backed-off due to the fact that they consider something important will be missing. Maybe I should show them what you wrote

I'm not particularly concerned about my own pleasure, but that of a partner would be important to me. I'd be interested in any female perspectives on this.

Thank you SO MUCH for this post. I'm 49 and have been struggling with ED for a while now, and I believe it's due mainly to OCD and depression. I just went on a trip with my girlfriend this weekend and totally couldn't perform in the moment. It was an otherwise beautiful trip. I hope she can understand that we can have intimacy without the constant need to put it in immediately. But she isn't big on foreplay. I'm hoping to change her mind about it. If she doesn't it's too bad because I really want a long-term relationship with her, and we both want kids. I really want to overcome it. I can't thank you enough for your post.

Do you have single friends ? Ha this is a great post seriously, great to get another set of eyes on this epidemic we are part of now.
I guess from here, how do we tear down the social stigma surrounding ED and the true meaning of being a man? Mass advertising? Political support? I think one of the main reasons why I have psychological ED since I was a teen has to do with being addicted to internet porn and being indoctrinated with this foot long rock solid 24/7 make image at a young age.
Josh

DaisyLaze wrote:Hi all


Kissing, touching, exploring and experimenting takes priority and it's amazing. In long term relationships it is very hard to give your partner a spontaneous passionate kiss without that immediately leading to sex. Foreplay in the past has been great but it's always been seen as a thing to get out of the way so 'proper sex' can happen. It can become dull, predictable and I for one don't always want to have penetrative sex just because I'm feeling aroused. This can be quite difficult for a man (with an erection) to understand and can lead to resentment.

Daisy, I am in total agreement with you. Particularly as I have never had an orgasm thru penetration sex. The best sex I have had was flirting (whilst my partner and I worked together as waiters) followed by foreplay with oral and digital manipulation, and only at the end, penetration, which I would have been happy enough not to have. When I fantasise, it is not sex that I think about it is the foreplay.

Hi all, only just seen these responses. I'm glad a few of you saw the post and got some comfort from it. Just over a year on and I still feel the same, sadly I feel my partner does feel 'disappointed' by not being able to 'perform'. Whilst that side doesn't bother me at all I wish I knew how to relieve him (excuse the pun) of these feelings. It's all very well letting him know how much I'm enjoying myself but i know it's not just about me and my enjoyment.