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BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby The_Eye » Thu Apr 30, 2020 2:26 pm

So my brother is going out regardless of the lockdown (he likes to challenge authorities) and a couple days ago he got into a physical fight with the police. Now he will have to go in court, and he's all hyped and excited .

He LOVES to challenge authority and laughs at everybody who follows the rule (I.E. the "sheeps" who stay at home during the Lockdown).

When he's around I find his negative energy disgusting and draining. He HATES everybody and laughs at everybody. My parents always justify him hoping that he will change one day.

What can I do to shield myself from his negative energy when he's around ?
I spend all my days locked into my room so I don't have to interact.
I have OCD and CYCLOTHYMIA.


I just keep pretending everything is fine.....
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby jaus tail » Fri May 01, 2020 3:19 pm

if you both are on talking terms then show him a few videos of people suffering with coronavirus. tell him it's ok to be a sheep.
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also at times even lions back off from a fight. ask him to watch animal planet. when a lion is confronted by 10 hyenas, the lion backs off.

tell him that if he gets jailed, a whole lot of worse stuff can happen to him in prison. show him some videos of jailed abroad. being in prison isnt as glamoros n fun n easy as they show in tv shows.

an injection is always better than surgery. if you both are not on talking terms then there isnt much you can do... sorry... if he's got bpd, is he under some kind of therapy or counselling...
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Postby The_Eye » Sat May 02, 2020 1:05 pm

Hey thanks for your words, I really appreciate it. It's hard for me to talk to him, because he's on another planet, I mean, he hates therapists and everything that's " official " ,and he likes everything "alternative" . He says only old people die from the virus so he thinks people are worrying for no reason, and that is all a conspiracy.

All this things makes me really angry and sad inside. :(
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby jaus tail » Sun May 03, 2020 4:58 pm

yeah it can be tough to deal when the other person has pretty much made up his mind. i have a close friend whom i insist to wear a helmet while riding his bike, but he never listens.

i'm sorry to say this but i once attended a seminar on mental health n we had case studies n there was a similar case where one child refused to listen. the cousellor told us 'you've lost him already'.

how old is he and how old are you?
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby The_Eye » Sun May 03, 2020 6:25 pm

he's 26 and I'm 29
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby jaus tail » Mon May 04, 2020 4:15 am

If hes not listening, maybe you could ask him to move out of the house eventually. Or maybe you could move to a safer environment. Otherwise this will affect you too.
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby jaus tail » Mon May 04, 2020 1:23 pm

i also have a similar family. my older brother doesnt talk with mom n she often shouts at me... shes scared of losing him, upsetting him. at times i'd get very angry in trying to resolve their issues.

so be careful not to wreck ur mind when trying to help others...
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby The_Eye » Mon May 04, 2020 6:09 pm

jaus tail wrote:i also have a similar family. my older brother doesnt talk with mom n she often shouts at me... shes scared of losing him, upsetting him. at times i'd get very angry in trying to resolve their issues.

so be careful not to wreck ur mind when trying to help others...


I'm sorry about that, sounds really sad, but this kind of people is unaware of others feeling so not much to do ,.... this kind of dynamic is really though to deal with, maybe I just need to find my inner space and move on with my life.
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby jaus tail » Mon May 04, 2020 6:51 pm

Perhaps start therapy for yourself just to be safe.

Cause god forbid if you get a breakdown or something.
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Re: BPD sibling making life impossible

Postby Borut » Tue May 12, 2020 12:29 pm

The_Eye wrote:So my brother is going out regardless of the lockdown (he likes to challenge authorities) and a couple days ago he got into a physical fight with the police. Now he will have to go in court, and he's all hyped and excited .

He LOVES to challenge authority and laughs at everybody who follows the rule (I.E. the "sheeps" who stay at home during the Lockdown).

When he's around I find his negative energy disgusting and draining. He HATES everybody and laughs at everybody. My parents always justify him hoping that he will change one day.

What can I do to shield myself from his negative energy when he's around ?
I spend all my days locked into my room so I don't have to interact.


One thing I would advise is to talk to other people outside the family a lot , so that you will have a strong sense of reality.
Should you even try and be productive the whole day?
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