Memory problems, but with timeline, not the content.

Yesterday I asked our husband a question. I asked, "How's your hip today?"
The rest of the conversation went like this:

Husband: "I'm not even answering that, because we've discussed it already."
Me; "I have zero recollection of that."
Husband: "Well, we did. It wasn't even just a quick answer, it was a full discussion that lasted several minutes and was detailed."
Me: "And you're sure it was with *ME*?"
Husband: "Yes. It was with *YOU. * "
Me: "Weird."
Husband: "I'll tell you before bed if you still don't remember."

Fast forward to bedtime. Husband tells me the whole conversation, word for word, and tells me what time we talked about it.

Me: "That was this morning?"
Husband: "Yep."
Me: "I remember ALL of that, but I thought that was yesterday."
Husband: "No, I wasn't awake yet when you left yesterday. This was today before you left."
Me: "I know. Remember having the conversation. I remember the time of day. But I seriously thought that was a conversation from yesterday."
Husband: "Nope."
Me: "Weird. This has been happening a lot lately. I don't like it."
Husband: "Me either."

So... what the heck is going on? Anyone else experience this? Like, specifically remembering exact conversations or events, but having the days mixed up like this?

K- Host.

Yep, it totally happened to me before.

Dissociation can cause troubles making a coherent timeline with our memories. Something that happened three years ago can feel like yesterday, and something that happened on the morning can feel like a year back.

Being tired, stressed, anxious, triggered, etc. - basically anything that can increase dissociation - usually make it worse. Being co-con and not enough grounded can also make it worse.

I found out that the more my days look alike, the more I tend to confuse and mix them. What helped was to associate a specific activity to a day (monday = drawing, thuesday = reading, etc.).

we have this alot too
memories loose their metadata & we can't place them in context
memories from today, yesterday, months ago whatever can all have the same weight or whatever
we'll tell our T about something that happened 'recently' & she asked when it happened & we have no idea
or like, talking to a friend & they'rel ike 'how was your weekend' & we're 'dont remember it was a few days ago' & the friend goes "today's monday, weekend was yesterday" & we're surprised

we're usually really good with minutes & seconds & sometimes hours
but days / weeks/ months are meaningless
years dont exist lol

i have that happen too. time seems to go in different directions memory wise. there are things i think happened months ago that was more recent.

Dwelt wrote:Yep, it totally happened to me before.

Dissociation can cause troubles making a coherent timeline with our memories. Something that happened three years ago can feel like yesterday, and something that happened on the morning can feel like a year back.

Being tired, stressed, anxious, triggered, etc. - basically anything that can increase dissociation - usually make it worse. Being co-con and not enough grounded can also make it worse.

I found out that the more my days look alike, the more I tend to confuse and mix them. What helped was to associate a specific activity to a day (monday = drawing, thuesday = reading, etc.).

Thanks. Yes, life has definitely been more stressful lately. Finals are around the corner, trying to secure a summer job, one of the outside teenagers is being difficult. The co-con with certain parts is less than is normal.

*sigh*

K

-- Sat Apr 23, 2022 1:01 pm --

Amythyst wrote:we have this alot too
memories loose their metadata & we can't place them in context
memories from today, yesterday, months ago whatever can all have the same weight or whatever
we'll tell our T about something that happened 'recently' & she asked when it happened & we have no idea
or like, talking to a friend & they'rel ike 'how was your weekend' & we're 'dont remember it was a few days ago' & the friend goes "today's monday, weekend was yesterday" & we're surprised

we're usually really good with minutes & seconds & sometimes hours
but days / weeks/ months are meaningless
years dont exist lol

Ugh. Yes. I'll say something like, "It's been a few weeks." And husband is like, "No, that was 3 days ago," or "that was only last week."

It's frustrating.

I have had days when my sense of chronology was so messed yp, childhood memories seemed like yesterday and today's breakfast seems like days or weeks ago.

It gets better with anchoring and integration therapy. It takes time and effort, but it gets better.

ArbreMonde wrote:I have had days when my sense of chronology was so messed yp, childhood memories seemed like yesterday and today's breakfast seems like days or weeks ago.

It gets better with anchoring and integration therapy. It takes time and effort, but it gets better.

Thanks. It's nice to know it's not just me.
This hasn't been a problem for quite some time. My guess is the stress of school and upcoming finals is messing with things.

K

Oh, yes. We thought it was just us. Something has been going on with us a lot lately. All our days seem to be blurring together, and it is causing us issues similar to this.

Sorry to hear you are struggling with this. We hope it improves for all of you soon.

Multiverse wrote:Oh, yes. We thought it was just us. Something has been going on with us a lot lately. All our days seem to be blurring together, and it is causing us issues similar to this.

Sorry to hear you are struggling with this. We hope it improves for all of you soon.

Thank you. I actually just saw and responded to your post. We got it sorted out (for the moment), but I'm sure it will happen again.

k