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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Sat Oct 03, 2020 12:15 am

Wow, that's a lot of progress!

I think it was a good idea to write it all down like that. I hope it helps to look at it later.
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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby Snaga » Sat Oct 03, 2020 12:24 am

It is a lot of progress, and I don't envy you- I'm in the same boat, but mine is more of a train wreck in slow motion, with some breathing room before I have to get serious. I've just finished my own COBRA selections, myself. And will be looking into going back to school soon. It's... a bit daunting but what else can we do? Sounds as if you've been handling this very well! Hugs.
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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby MakersDozn » Sat Oct 03, 2020 2:30 am

Thank you, Gang and Snaga. It does help to see everything that we've written down.

Snaga, wishing you well as you progress with your plans to go back to school.

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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby Western » Sat Oct 03, 2020 3:46 pm

MakersDozn wrote:The title says it all. :? It was because of COVID-related budget cuts.

We're actually doing fine. The likelihood has been hanging over our head for the last six months, and we're relieved that it's resolved. We're good with money and are in a decent place financially, and we've updated our LinkedIn profile.

We'd welcome any messages of support. Thanks.

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That is such a shame and I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you.

Try and use it as an opportunity to do something new.
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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby MakersDozn » Sat Oct 03, 2020 3:55 pm

Thank you for your support, Western.

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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby MakersDozn » Fri Oct 09, 2020 11:43 pm

We are struggling. Our depression and cPTSD are making it hard for us to complete the assignments that the career coach has given us. We don't want to work, but we need the money. This has always been the case, and the reason why we stuck with our job for more than 30 years. We find it difficult, if not impossible, to market ourselves as a desirable candidate. We're not that good an actor.

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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Sat Oct 10, 2020 5:46 am

I'm sorry things are hard right now. I hope you can find a job that is engaging and interesting, even if you'd rather not be doing it.
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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby MakersDozn » Sat Oct 10, 2020 4:44 pm

Thanks, Gang.

Gonna make sure we do the homework (ugh) before we speak to the coach on Monday morning.

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Re: Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby Johnny-Jack » Tue Oct 13, 2020 3:35 pm

We find it difficult, if not impossible, to market ourselves as a desirable candidate. We're not that good an actor.

I can totally relate to that way of thinking. That said, the feedback you've gotten is that you've been a good employee and a respected colleague. If the job counselor hasn't already suggested this, it should help to list some traits you generally possess that employers value, heck need, such as responsibility, accuracy, dependability, shows good judgment, loyalty, team player, etc. You can probably be objective about those example traits and others. You don't have to act, just present the facts.

My organization hires a whole range of ages, including plenty of people in their 40s, 50s and even 60s. The clear values are that it's easier to be sure of what you're getting from references, less ramp up time, and ironically, older employees individually may stay longer, often to retirement, providing work force stability. Hiring only young people in many organizations isn't desirable, for many reasons.
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Laid Off After More Than 30 Years

Postby Johnny-Jack » Tue Oct 13, 2020 3:55 pm

[quote:hyzqrsaq]We find it difficult, if not impossible, to market ourselves as a desirable candidate. We're not that good an actor.[/quote:hyzqrsaq]
I can totally relate to that way of thinking. That said, the feedback you've gotten is that you've been a good employee and a respected colleague. If the job counselor hasn't already suggested this, it should help to list some traits you generally possess that employers value, heck [i:hyzqrsaq]need[/i:hyzqrsaq], such as responsibility, accuracy, dependability, shows good judgment, loyalty, team player, etc. You can probably be objective about those example traits and others. You don't have to act, just present the facts.

My organization hires a whole range of ages, including plenty of people in their 40s, 50s and even 60s. The clear values are that it's easier to be sure of what you're getting from references, less ramp up time, and ironically, older employees individually may stay longer, often to retirement, providing work force stability. Hiring only young people in a lot of organizations isn't desirable, for many reasons.
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