There's no several parts wanting different things at the same time in our system either. I can only communicate with them, when they come close to me, not when I choose to, but when they do, or happen to come closer to outside for any reason.
Systems are different. If you hear someone has something certain way, or that several people have their systems working certain way, it doesn't mean your system should work that way too. It's up to you to find out how your system works. All systems are as valid, there is no one way they should be like. And inside one system there can be different parts, like you have, who work different ways than other parts in that same system.
You also have to remember that systems can be in very different place what comes to awareness. Thorne may not have any clue she's an alter. Maybe that's why she's not trying to communicate with you, she doesn't know there is you. The question is have you tried to communicate with her when she is there, because you are the one who knows you can do it. She may not know that at all.
Sometimes parts do not know they are parts in the system more than their main front did. Sometimes they do, and have fully working co-operating system inside, that works together doing their all that main front personality doesn't get to know about others. Or it can be mix of these two, or anything else. And how they understand what outside world is, who you are, who they themselves are and what it all means of course has huge effect to how they react or communicate. From their point of view you can be a voice in their mind, and they have no clue how should they react to that.Or they may not be able to hear your thoughts, they may only be able to hear you if you talk out loud to them. Some parts don't use words at all, and there can be several reasons why. They may not be people for example. And it's up to you to find the ways how to reach them.
If you could keep your mind open, be warm and welcoming, willing to get to know them and consistent with it, you could know much more about them now. If you don't know something, just stay open and curious. Try other ways. But you have not been able to do that, I really have no clue do you really even want to get to know them, or do you do things like that sometimes just because you're told to. Then you can feel you did your share and if they didn't deliver you the picture perfect answers like some systems have over years of being nice and warm and welcoming, you can say they're different than other systems' parts, and maybe not parts at all. Most of the time you doubt and find mistakes in what they do, that doesn't make them trust you or wanna spend time with you either. It slows down progress there could be, if you were actually willing to concentrate on them more than you are willing to doubt and dismiss them.
To be honest, I feel so bad for your parts because of the ways you talk about them, constantly having a reason why they are not valid.
I know some systems that do hear everything going on in the inner world, there's a lot of background noise in their mind all the time, and because parts are in different situations inside, it's not one conversation between several parts, but many different conversation one on top over another, so it's very hard or impossible to understand what's happening, or hear if someone tries to talk outside, comment on to the one in the body. It's very distracting to them and it's very hard for them to concentrate on anything from all the inner noise, or try to sleep, anything. I'm very happy I don't have it like that, that we don't have it like that.
Some systems can be like that, most are not. It doesn't make them more or less DID. All stories about how different parts and systems are, are examples of how they can be. If you have read what's going on in this forum alone, other than threads you're involved with, you are aware there's so many different type of systems in here too. So there's nothing out of ordinary to be different in some things. The things that makes it DID in you are very similar with several people. But you do know that, if you've ever payed any attention to how many times we have told you that's how we have it too.
Systems are the way they needed to be originally, and what we needed originally is different for every trauma. And they react different ways, because parts are in different situations and they do have minds of their own. You do have dissociated separate parts, and that's what makes you DID. I will not tell again what makes them separate enough, it was just told you in another thread, and if you want to remember, you go and look from there. I'm not your servant that goes and finds info you want for you, when you're perfectly capable of doing it yourself. It's been answered to you many times, and you understood it while you were with T who knew how to answer to that.
It was your decision to leave her and go back to T that doesn't know the differences, can't tell them to you, and makes you confused again. But you knew it about her, when you made your decision to go back to her. You knew she doesn't understand DID. Now, you can not do decision like that, to leave a T who was able to explain you and go to someone who confuses you more, and then expect that people in this form would replace DID T to you. We can't. You made the decision yourself, and now you live with the consequences of it.
If you think you can make progress with DID with our help, while in your own life your therapist does things against treating DID, I'm sorry, but you're wrong. We can't cure you while you work on something else yourself. This can be support for someone who has a T who knows what to do, not the place where we do therapy over your actual T or cure mistakes she makes in treatment, because she doesn't understand your condition. The main thing still is, you wanted her over DID T, and now you have what you wanted.
It can not be a surprise how she explains things being this or that or something else, and can't tell difference between ego state and an alter, because that's how she was before too. Of course that's gonna make you unsure of what things are, but you chose that over someone who was able to explain things the way you came in here telling you understand now it's DID you have.
We can't undo your own choices, and to me you chose to be unsure. And it is not my job to use time and energy to safe you from the consequences of that choice. It's non of our problem in here, we have our own problems and own traumas to heal from, and I haven't seen you spending hours trying to support us on our problems.
All question you are back asking in here now have been answered to you several times before. It's not my hours that should be spent to re-explain them again and then again, because you think it's too much trouble to find the place where it was last time answered to you. It's not questions I need answers for, but you do. So you go back and find the help you have received already from here. It's been many of us using countless hours to this already, for you, in our expense. How about using your own hours now to read the answers with a thought, instead of assuming we do your work for you again, and use our time to your problems that have been answered again, work we already spend hours to. That was time wasted.