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Postby Dnester » Sun May 12, 2019 1:42 am

I have seen this Psychologist 3 times (before when I saw her doesnt count as neither of us remember it). On the third session she tells me that I have a perpetrator alter. How can she KNOW I have a perpetrator alter? People can perpetrate all kinds of things and that does not mean they have an alter that does those things. No perpetrator alter came out and met with her. Then she wants to take 6 sessions to combine all my child alters to one then age progress that one to adulthood without knowing anything about my alters. Isnt that dangerous? I do like the fact that she explains things well. Like for instance she says that the alters dont have to sound different they are parts of me. The fact that she says they have different perspectives. Really only a couple do but anyway. I just cant help but feel she is dangerous. Starting with new people stinks. I hate it.
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby Sarandipity » Sun May 12, 2019 9:40 am

This is what I'm frightened of. Some therapist going in half cocked thinking they can cure all with a few easy steps. I'd be cautious. Sounds great if its legit but if not then yeah I'd be thinking danger. the Overlord
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Sun May 12, 2019 3:11 pm

Dnester wrote:On the third session she tells me that I have a perpetrator alter. How can she KNOW I have a perpetrator alter? People can perpetrate all kinds of things and that does not mean they have an alter that does those things. No perpetrator alter came out and met with her. Then she wants to take 6 sessions to combine all my child alters to one then age progress that one to adulthood without knowing anything about my alters. Isnt that dangerous?


You need to bring all these concerns to her. Ask her how DOES she "know" you have a "perpetrator alter"? Tell her that fusing idea sounds dangerous and it isn't something you want to consider right now. (It sounds very weird to me--it certainly isn't something that's mentioned in the ISSTD guidelines for treating OSDD/DID.)

But the point is that you need to raise these concerns, and THEN if you don't like how they are received or addressed, I think it would be time to find another therapist.
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby Johnny-Jack » Sun May 12, 2019 6:09 pm

Dnester wrote:Then she wants to take 6 sessions to combine all my child alters to one then age progress that one to adulthood without knowing anything about my alters. Isnt that dangerous?

Yes, it is dangerous for you. She doesn't know your system at all, yet she's planning to attempt major structural changes quickly and without discovering the needs of everyone in your system. It's quite shocking to hear she would say anything remotely like this and so early!

I just cant help but feel she is dangerous.

You know this is not just neutral or incompetent, it could easily put your system and your stability at risk. I'm so glad to hear you're skeptical.

Ditto about starting with new people. It's easy when it's a clear mismatch in session 1 or 2 and you don't go back. My own therapy since 2010 hasn't progressed anywhere near to where it should because of all the false starts with new Ts, gaps between, endings. I'm just lucky I have a solid therapy going now for ~3 yrs.
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby BeccaBee » Sun May 12, 2019 8:52 pm

that's a giant red flag that this person doesn't have a ######6 clue what they are doing.

my humble opinion is cease and desist.
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby Dnester » Sun May 12, 2019 9:04 pm

Im so hoping that this new lady contacts me tomm. She is not a doctor but at thiz point I dont care. I am going to have a lenghty discussion on the phone with her first. It stinks that there are not many specialist here. I do want to ask you guys about another thing. Im pretty sure I have asked it before but I dont think many people replied. Last night the chatter said I think I killed Irene ( dont know who that is)and then later it also said after I take my Cloziril. I have never been on that med in my life. Why are they lying?
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Postby theBalancingAct » Mon May 13, 2019 1:31 am

Did a quick search, and it might be "Clorazil" that they're saying, which said quick google search also is an antipsychotic medication. Maybe it interfered with communicating with Irene if you take/took it? Or someone's just mistaken and thinks all medication/antipsychotic medication is that?
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby Dnester » Mon May 13, 2019 2:56 am

Oh those things were thought at different times so I dont think theyre are connected. The second could be true. Bad news this new lady doesnt accept my insurance.
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby Sarandipity » Mon May 13, 2019 7:20 am

Parts in my system were thought dead but they turned out to be hidden or buried or in a kind of deep deep sleep - dormant, or trapped in a trauma memory or held prisoner by other parts even. Some wake up ok, some traumatised, some really angry. But probably other systems have ability to kill off parts? I don't know.
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Re: I dont know what to do

Postby Dnester » Tue May 14, 2019 5:44 pm

I am on another forum and they are telling me I am not DID and my therapist said she wouldnt tell me my diagnosis yet. FML. She slso said doing the fusion of a my littles into one is a easy way to gather everyone together without the pain of memories. She wants me to go in and ask evefyone when they came and why etc. Isnt that going to drudge up painful memories?
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