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Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby Dnester » Thu May 02, 2019 4:44 am

So I am seeing my old Psychologist again from 15 years ago. I dont remember anything from our past sessions. She got me to buy her book on my first session today about DID which I thought was ballsy. Today was intake day so not much was covered. She seemed nice enough though. She is very DID oriented so I dont know if I am going to like ALL my issues clumped under that. She wants to see me two times a week so that tells me she is money hungry. She said something about one external session a week (dealing with everyday life and stressors) then a internal session a week ( discussing the parts) So idk how I really feel about her yet I guess.
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Re: Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby theBalancingAct » Thu May 02, 2019 4:52 am

Odd question, but what's the title of the book? The older ones want to see if it's a "good" one

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Postby vix » Thu May 02, 2019 6:23 am

Being paying her is one issue but, I remember when i first started to work on my issues with our previous doctor I needed at least one session a week to discuss what's going on. In time that need got less, plus I am paying my current doctor and can't afford to do so more than once a month so those are our sessions now.

I think it might be good to start with sessions once or twice a week and then drop the number when most has been discussed. When first getting into a problem I have always found it more useful to work on it as soon and often as possible. But like I said, you are paying her so I'm not sure what her real motivation is. I think it's still good that you're working with a specialist who is putting in the time.
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Re: Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby SOHank » Thu May 02, 2019 1:29 pm

Frankly, that sounds like a good schedule to start with. SF started once a week, but was for depression. Once the dissociation showed up, in increased to a weekly session plus every other week as her T had no more openings. It moved to twice a week when the other client dropped.

In my opinion..., worth every penny.

Some people do have your best interest at heart. Most people are good. Those out to take advantage of people are not numerous, but it sounds like you've run into more than your fair share.
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Postby TheGangsAllHere » Thu May 02, 2019 2:16 pm

Try to bring up that those are your impressions--that her only reason for suggesting twice a week is to make more money, and that it was "ballsy" to get you to buy her book at the first session, and see what she says. The only way to build trust and attachment is to be as honest as you can about your reactions to her. Those kinds of suspicions usually come from a protector, and your T is going to have work to win their trust and respect. An experienced DID T will understand that.
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Re: Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby Dnester » Thu May 02, 2019 5:41 pm

I could never tell her that. That would be rude. She would probably be like Bye Felicia lol. After all I could just be making assumptions. Its not fair to judge her first visit.
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Postby theBalancingAct » Thu May 02, 2019 6:23 pm

If she can't handle those assumptions been drawn in a professional manner, then she isn't a good therapist for you.
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Re: Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Thu May 02, 2019 9:03 pm

One of the main ways that therapy progresses is by us making assumptions based on our past experiences, and having them be proved wrong by the therapist. You can’t build trust without doing that. Saying something like, “my first thought when you suggested coming twice a week is that you would be doing it for the money,” gives her a chance to explore that with you—to tell you what she WAS thinking, and wonder with you why you would think that was the reason.
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Re: Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby Dnester » Fri May 03, 2019 12:49 am

I understand but I am not willing to test the waters. Its not easy to find DID/OSDD therapists in my area ecspecially ones that are doctors and have as much reputation as she has for being a specialist on the disorder. She is supposed to be the best in my area. She won the top doctor award in my city in 2017. Im just being judgrmental when I shouldnt be.
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Re: Dont know if I like my new therapist/doctor

Postby KingsleyHere » Fri May 03, 2019 11:24 pm

Is she using her book in some way? Like wanting you to know where she is coming from or chapters on specific issues she plans on covering with you. If it was simply, I've written a book, here buy it...then of course your impression is the obvious one anyone would draw. First session...a little pushy!
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