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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby Efragment » Wed May 16, 2018 2:32 pm

Right on, Asti!
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Wed May 16, 2018 2:44 pm

I'm so impressed by your teamwork and strength.
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby Efragment » Thu May 17, 2018 8:49 am

So are we. And I hope L feels better now. Wishing you a good day, all of birdsong.
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby birdsong87 » Thu May 17, 2018 9:23 am

well, we do have a 2-host-system. it makes stuff easier.
and we have years of crisis experience.

rocky road. it was a lot of effort to end the day well.
we'll have to take some pressure from L.

remember that thing about the see-saw that balances change and stability? ya, we have all change right now, plus flashbacks and H and stupid offices writing us stupid $#%^. its not gonna work if we others dont lean HARD on the stability side.
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby Efragment » Thu May 17, 2018 9:34 am

Hi Annett, that's very wise, I think, to lean hard on the stability side. And I'm sorry but I don't recall 'see-saw' metaphore. Was this in an article? But I do understand you! We were júst telling ourselves/each other to do some grounding and taking care of ourselves now. Tonight ER can write about his discoveries again. Rocky roads they are.. good luck today, you're doing great! And warm regards to relaxing L:)
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby birdsong87 » Thu May 17, 2018 10:40 am

the see-saw thing is something therapists use to explain why you can't change too much at once and why only looking for stability won't work either.
its like a see-saw that has stability on one side and change and progress on the other.
whenever you change something you lose some stability. progress is the opposite of conserving. but whenever you try to only be in stability there is no room for change in that, too static.
so you always have to kind of balance between the two and not get too radical on one side or you will be either stuck or losing it.
and L is kind of losing it. so we need to balance it on the other side and do boring routines and sticking to a schedule and self-care and all that.
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby LadySlippers » Thu May 17, 2018 11:23 am

I like the visuals of a see saw . I want the progress and growth but don’t want the overwhelmed.

Also the routine and self care focus would be good for us. It’s all about balancing-easier said than done.
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby birdsong87 » Thu May 17, 2018 11:33 am

it is extra tricky because we have to balance the system and then we have to balance it all AGAIN when it comes to the system responding to the outside world.
our T says its like a polar bear with each foot on a different piece of ice floe, trying to keep it all together
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby LadySlippers » Thu May 17, 2018 11:40 am

Another interesting visual !
It’s all hard work .... bit by bit
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Re: keep on keeping on

Postby MakersDozn » Thu May 17, 2018 4:15 pm

The see-saw imagery helps us a lot too, Annett. Thanks. We've been in a "we're in stage 2 of therapy but need to step back to stage 1 to stabilize again" situation for a while. And we were beginning to think that maybe stepping back might not work. But the see-saw sheds a whole new light on how to go about this.

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