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Re: Need Support

Postby ArbreMonde » Mon May 03, 2021 9:29 am

Sending moral support! It's not easy having to deal with adulting stuff when you're not a full adult alter yourself.

Good luck, team!

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Re: Need Support

Postby Johnny-Jack » Mon May 03, 2021 9:13 pm

Your second vaccine shot tomorrow will at least reduce that concern hopefully. Fully vaccinated, we've truly stopped worrying about the whole thing, for our body at least. Our son caught a mild case a month ago, we did no social distancing with him, and yet we tested negative the whole time. Might it free up some energy you've had dedicated to safety?
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Re: Need Support

Postby MakersDozn » Thu May 06, 2021 9:04 pm

Thank you to ArbreMonde, Johnny-Jack, and anyone else reading. We appreciate it.

We received our second Moderna shot on Tuesday, May 4. Our initial reaction was relief to have gotten to this point. After the obligatory 15-minute rest period, we left and treated ourselves to lunch at the same fast-food place that we had visited after the first shot.

The following day we were sore and tired. Sorer than the first shot. We thought, "We could really use a pain patch right now." Then we remembered that we actually had a package of them that we had bought a while back but never used, so we put one on. And it helped.

Being tired all day mad it difficult to get things done, such as job search activities or housework. We were trying to maintain our newly-agreed-upon effort to have our 16- and 17-year-olds run the system for a while. But we realized that with a circumstance like the vaccination, we had to adjust our expectations in the interest of short-term self-care.

Today is obviously another day. We're no longer sore. We've been keeping up with making to-do lists, but it's hard to stick with the job search stuff.

And we're having some challenges among the newly formed teen leadership with various teens trying to figure out where they fit in individually, both as a team member and as a member of the overall system.

Communication and cooperation are important, but the flip side of lowered barriers is a more muddled sense of individual identity. We all acknowledge that it's important to us to come to terms with the duality of who we are. At the same time, we're many individuals and one collective. [Protectors: This feels like a real mind#### sometimes.]

Someone is reminding us that it's time for us to eat our daily can of tuna. We're feeling a bit light-headed.

One step at a time.

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Re: Need Support

Postby fireheart » Sun May 09, 2021 5:07 pm

We are also sending our support.
Hopefully stabilization can happen soon enough... It's so hard when you have to deal with responsibilities that are actually too much for you. Tuna sounds good though. Self-care is important.
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Re: Need Support

Postby KitMcDaydream » Tue May 11, 2021 6:55 am

we have our second vaccination in June. Host was really nervous about the first one as the body has had severe allergic reactions in the past. but she took some antihistamine before and after the jab (AZ one) and was fine only had a mild headache coming on so took flu capsules before going to bed and was fine the next day.

Hopefully the second one will also be as uneventful! They're talking about booster shots in autumn now in our country.

Kit was hanging about yesterday but when they announced people can hug from next week she disappeared back inside and says she's not coming back out until there's another lockdown and social restrictions again!

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Re: Need Support

Postby MakersDozn » Sat May 15, 2021 12:23 am

Thank you to fireheart, Jody@KitMcDaydream, and everyone else.

We're just stopping by to check in and let folks know that we're doing okay, and even making incremental progress in a couple of areas. The tuna eating continues. :)

Jody and Kit, we hear you on the hugs. We don't like them either. And we're nervous about being able to go without a mask in most situations. It was a big step not to wear a mask while stepping into the lobby of our apartment building to pick up our mail.

We'll be back to catch up further as soon as we feel/get a bit more organized.

Good thoughts to all,

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Re: Need Support

Postby MakersDozn » Sun May 16, 2021 11:47 pm

TRIGGER WARNING for loss of distant relative - details minimal. Note that the details that we do provide do not reveal our identity or location.

We're generally taking incremental steps forward, though we still seem to have difficult days about half the time, and individuals inside are either frustrated by the pressure, frustrated by the slow rate of progress, or remaining quiet out of self-preservation.

Our mother's extended family has an incorporated association. We're not close to anyone in this extended family, as they have ties to much of our childhood trauma. But we do keep up loosely with the association and choose to be notified about members' major life events.

One older-middle-aged cousin has taken on the de facto role of corresponding with everyone via email as appropriate. He notified everyone recently that his mother had just passed in her late 80s, and that he was going to hold a visitation on Zoom. We decided to attend, believing it was right to at least make an appearance, given that we do keep at least minimally in touch.

There were about 50 people at the Zoom, but those who spoke were mainly the immediate family and their clergy person. The family shared what they saw as positive memories, but the tone of the gathering was the most somber visitation we'd ever attended, either virtually or in person.

Then came the real trigger. One of the immediate family, in an attempt to describe how loving the deceased was, mentioned her habit of doing something that would be an obvious trigger to any trauma survivor. We personally considered the behavior abusive.

We should have left then, but we didn't want to just disappear and seem rude. We had no obligation to attend, let alone stay for any specific time. We left after being there for an hour.

That was last night. We've been feeling the effects of this trigger all day. So it's important to us, in the interest of our healing, to talk about this among people who understand.

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Re: Need Support

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Mon May 17, 2021 3:08 am

Sorry that happened.

I hope you've been able to ground and recover.
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Re: Need Support

Postby MakersDozn » Thu May 27, 2021 10:22 pm

Thanks, Gang. It helped to talk to our T.

On a more general note, we've been laying low regarding our forum activity, mainly in an effort to focus on stabilization. We're doing a lot better in managing our offline to-do list, although we're still not close to finding a job.

At this point it's best for our well-being if we start reading/posting again, so that we're around supportive people and not so isolated.

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Re: Need Support

Postby IainEtc » Sat May 29, 2021 9:48 am

Hi MDs,

Glad you're back. We missed you. Hope things are going well.

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