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A delusional person is fixated on me

Postby ts584 » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:27 pm

Hi everyone,

I am new to psychforums and hope that I am posting this in the right place. I need advice from people who understand how to interact with (or whether or not to try to interact with) people with certain delusions. My situation is as follows:

I am a young female trauma survivor who posts online content for other trauma survivors. I have a bit of a following, not that big but pretty big for the type of content I make. About a month ago, I got an email from a guy who I thought might be delusional and beyond my help, but something he said indicated that he might be a survivor of the type of trauma I am, so I responded once, being supportive and casually opening the door for further conversation.

His response was really nonsensical and included mention of something sexually inappropriate, so I chose not to respond further. Since then, I have received dozens of emails from him, none of which I have responded to. At first, I hoped it would stop and mostly didn't read what he sent.

But it's been over a month now with no sign of ceasing, so I started reading his most recent ones. It appears that he thinks I am speaking to him in some kind of code through my online content and he has become increasingly angry that I am not replying to his emails directly. He has become demanding that I respond to him directly, believes that he deserves a response. He has told me he has a history of extreme violence (I presume from the context it was in his childhood, but that naturally frightens me). And has continued to send weird, sexual stuff. No pictures or pornography that I have seen, but keeps bringing up an erotic story site.

He has also become verbally abusive, criticizing me for things I said on my website and calling me some not-so-nice adjectives. He uses lots of expletives in his emails and frequently goes off about psychotic and hypocritical people who he thinks are problematic (seems very angry towards society in general, which I relate to, but I digress).

I'm currently at a point where I feel like I need to do something about this, but don't know what. I am unwilling to stop my online work over this or stop making my email available to people who need help. And I would allow this person to go on emailing me indefinitely with no response - I'm already doing that with someone else who I do not feel poses any physical threat - but I now feel like, given the level of anger this person is directing toward me and how delusional they appear, that I may not be safe and may need to take some action.

The problem is, I don't know what. I grew up with people who were sicker than him, but learned that there was no effective way to communicate with them and went no contact. I don't know how to deal with this person effectively if it's possible to do so at all.

If anyone has any suggestions, that'd be greatly appreciated. I do not want to make this worse.
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Re: A delusional person is fixated on me

Postby ts584 » Wed Sep 26, 2018 9:07 pm

I should add that he is extremely fixated on "helping" me/"fixing" my trauma. But his advice does not tend to make any sense.
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Re: A delusional person is fixated on me

Postby Husbandofddwife » Mon Oct 01, 2018 1:18 am

Does this person have any personal information such as address/ phone number or just your full name.
If he does, ask the police to come out and at least fill out an incident report. Just what you said here is
Fine. Don’t panic but slowly start moving your info to a new site. Under a pen name. You have to remember I see the other side of this day after day. It’s a weirdness you wouldn’t believe. My wife has been through 2 stays at psych ward and still is not budging. When I left a few minutes ago, her eyes were fixated on tucker. Like a trance. Talking to him and even kissed him on the I pad. I can’t tell you what men are like when they have it. I do know John Hinkley had it. Shot Reagan for her adoration. It’s an illness and you do need to address this with an Leo. It’s not being mean or cold , it’s protecting yourself and getting him help. Personally I would not mention your thoughts on dd or about this site. Please do call the police and start the process of driving a wedge between his delusions and you.
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