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Will the urges ever go away?

Postby kittylover » Thu Jul 12, 2018 1:04 am

It’s a pattern
I go months without self harming or even wanting too
Then whenever I get too stressed or my cptsd flares up the urges come back
Then eventually I give in , become too weak to resist
I wonder if the urges will haunt me forever.....
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Re: Will the urges ever go away?

Postby ArchCannon » Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:01 pm

Do you have other ways of comforting yourself when cptsd attacks?
Other than sh, I mean.
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Re: Will the urges ever go away?

Postby TriangularLemur » Thu Jul 26, 2018 7:06 pm

I was pretty much here to ask this.

Some anxiety comes in and I feel the same as I have so many times before, its really strange, like its my default way of thinking
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Re: Will the urges ever go away?

Postby HirizaKyo » Mon Jul 30, 2018 3:44 pm

I've been a chronic self-harmer since 2nd grade.
I stopped, got worse, stopped, got worse, and stopped again until I think I got myself to a place now where I can actually comfortably say I may never do so again.
Unfortunately, like any addiction, self-harm needs and cravings and outbursts happen. It's been a year and a half for me I believe and I still get serious bad days where I think about it and feel like I need to... but just don't.
I don't know if the craving ever goes away completely and entirely, but I know that it fades with time.
The need to or it being the first thing you think about when something happens just becomes less.
I want to be positive and say that it does. With a lot of time it may just stop completely and you'll never feel like it again.

Something I know for a fact, though, is that it gets better the longer you use other ways of coping. For me, it was music. For my friends, it was exercise.
You got this. Time will tell and we'll find out if it goes away completely or not.
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Re: Will the urges ever go away?

Postby Snaga » Mon Jul 30, 2018 6:00 pm

^^

Yeah, after a certain point it's like naw, I don't need another scar. Or naw, I can't be bothered to do it.

At first stopping is really hard. But with practice it gets better.

I do operate on the assumption, that the urges will never completely go away, though.
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