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Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby ArchCannon » Thu May 24, 2018 1:05 am

Do you keep your self-harm habits and injuries a secret from everyone or do you have someone trusted
(e.g. family, friends) you let in on your self harm habits?
They have something to believe in, and that is all they need.
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby Snaga » Wed May 30, 2018 12:28 am

No one knows. The advantage in being a grumpy old guy- we're expected to be a little banged up. I just have to keep it from being too much at any one time.
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby ArchCannon » Mon Jun 04, 2018 12:43 am

Shame I don't have this advantage. What I do have though is appreciation for you. Thanks for stopping by and replying to this thread.
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Postby Snaga » Mon Jun 04, 2018 3:16 am

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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby breezewriter » Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:44 pm

I keep it a secret from everyone. Mostly because I don't want to break peoples' hearts and I'm ashamed. Some friends and family would take it personally, especially my fiancé. That being said, my fiancé and some members of my family know that I have done it in the past. They have seen the wounds at my weakest moments, and some of the scars are still visible. But whenever I start up again, I do my best to hide the evidence.
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby ArchCannon » Sat Jun 16, 2018 3:12 am

I get you. I don't want to worry my family either.
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby breezewriter » Sat Jun 16, 2018 6:30 am

ArchCannon, how about you? Do you have someone? Why do you ask?
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby ArchCannon » Sat Jun 16, 2018 5:29 pm

I have told a friend about it. And my parents know, but they found out on their own.
I was wondering if other people here shared it with anyone. To get a wider perspective, I guess.

But from my experience, a friend can handle something like this a lot better than a parent can.
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby breezewriter » Sat Jun 16, 2018 6:05 pm

From the very beginning I was ashamed to tell any of my friends about it, mostly because I did not want to be perceived as weak or trying to get attention. I was also afraid that they'd tell someone and I was completely terrified of being hospitalized. Eventually a couple friends did find out on their own, and went straight to their moms and our school counselor, who all in turn told my parents. I felt so betrayed, and was very angry at the world for a while.

Some of my injuries were easily explained by sports and being super active outdoors. A couple cuts were explained by a cat we had that was a real demon sometimes. I only admitted to a couple minor cuts/scratches, promised it'd never happen again, and my parents believed me. They made me go to a psychiatrist for just a little bit, but ultimately I got out of it.

It wasn't until much later, when I had a psychotic episode, that I inflicted the most serious injuries and those were unexplainable. I was obviously messed up. A friend found out quite suddenly when I called her asking for help because I was losing my mind. She was completely shocked and while taking care of me, my father suddenly got involved and was so sad and angry. He called out my previous lies. I think he had been in denial all that time, happy to believe me.

My fiancé also found out and was devastated in the beginning. I don't do it as much any more, but when I do I hide it and try to come up with a good explanation in case it's found. It seems like everyone starts blaming themselves for my actions and I hate it.

How did your friend handle it exactly? What did they say and do? (If you don't mind me asking)
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Re: Do you entrust anyone with your practices?

Postby ArchCannon » Sat Jun 16, 2018 8:03 pm

I don't remember his initial reaction much, cause I was drunk when I told him.
But he offered me help. Told me to call him when I'm down and said we can spend time together when I need distruction from sh urges. It works so far.
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