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In need of advice only 17.

Postby dannib » Mon Jul 22, 2013 6:35 pm

:cry: I've recently done something terrible & now Im depressed, sad, and just completely disappointed in myself for the things I've done. I just need help. I told myself I would wait at least until I was married to lose my virginity, but one thing led to another & my ex ended up on top of me. I feel horrible about it. But we didnt really have sex, I dont think. There waswas no penetration, he just rubbed it against me, and he didnt ejaculate either. I now fear that I might have gotten pregnant. I've been having weird cramps, abdominal pain and im worried. I just need help. Im extremely disappointed in myself and dont have ANYONE TO TALK TO. SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER ME. If more information is needed to help, feel free to ask :cry:
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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby inredrainboots » Mon Jul 22, 2013 7:11 pm

Sweetie, you can stop worrying about getting pregnant - there's no way you could have become pregnant if he didn't ejaculate. In order to become pregnant, his male parts would have had to have been inside of you while he ejaculated. Then, the sperm would have had to have met and bonded with one of your eggs.
Please relax. You didn't technically have sex - if he didn't penetrate you, then you are still a virgin. There is NO WAY you could be pregnant right now, from what you have told me.
It's natural to feel guilt after something like this happening, particularly if you wanted to save all sexual experiences until marriage. I understand your guilt. But that does not mean you necessarily should feel guilty. I don't think you did anything wrong.

Please, please relax and don't hurt yourself over this. If you need to talk, I'm here. I'll try to check my PMs and this thread as often as possible over the next week or so if you need to talk. Please hang in there. Please don't hurt yourself, it isn't worth it and you don't deserve it.

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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby smurf » Mon Jul 22, 2013 9:36 pm

Is there anyone you can talk to irl/3D? A friend or family member you trust.

Plus 1 to what inredrainboots posted.

Keep safe and please don't give yourself a hard time.

Keep posting

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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby CrackedGirl » Wed Jul 24, 2013 11:10 am

hi hon

I replied to your PM

Please keep yourself safe

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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby LanaDelRey » Wed Jul 24, 2013 11:45 am

As everybody said, there's no need to be worried about getting pregnant.
Was the "sex" (not technically sex of course) consented? If not, the best thing you could do is report it.
Keep in mind that self harm leads to nowhere, it won't help you in any matter, people might tell you it makes you feel better but that's a very huge lie. It won't make you feel better, so stop while you can!

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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby pistils » Thu Jul 25, 2013 1:36 am

inredrainboots wrote: In order to become pregnant, his male parts would have had to have been inside of you while he ejaculated.


'boots-

That just isn't true. Conception not require penetration- pregnancies have resulted from a drop of semen on moist vulvas. Those little guys are nothing if not determined! I agree, though, it does appear unlikely that danni conceived, and where I grew up, we would have called her a "technical virgin".
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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby tryingtocope2 » Tue Jul 30, 2013 11:19 am

This reply to pistils,

This could be true if the person was not a virgin. Since she is a virgin there is no way the semen could go through.
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Re: In need of advice only 17.

Postby Restored » Wed Jul 31, 2013 10:03 pm

HI Dannib

How are you doing now?

Takecare and here if you need anything

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