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Abusive mother or constructive critism

Postby Dnester » Sun Jul 15, 2018 4:42 pm

When I was younger my mom used to make fun of myOcd. Nothing i ever did was good for her and she used to say rude things to me. I would get mad and she would say i couldnt take constructive critism. She made me and my sister clean obsessively. She made fun of my developing body on several occasions. She told my step dad not to like me. He then began treating me like dirt and even slapped me once. Did i come from an abusive home or am I just tender hearted.
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Re: Abusive mother or constructive critism

Postby quietgirl2538 » Tue Jul 17, 2018 3:14 pm

You came from an abusive home. It may be done in a more subtle manner, but it remains an abusive situation. No one, not child or adult should be made fun of like that. It's like being a bully towards you. It's just not right.

My mom would make fun of how I walked and I swear I was so self-conscious of how I would walk at times. Then, later as an adult, I would take constructive criticism to heart, because I wasn't able to distinguish the both, constructive or actual criticism. I had the effects of abuse show up. And at least for me, it's not so easy to undo those feelings and thoughts that go through your mind. My therapist says I can get better, so I have faith that I won't be so sensitive to criticism all my life.
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Re: Abusive mother or constructive critism

Postby mymothersmike » Thu Nov 01, 2018 12:15 am

I feel sorry for you. Having your mom tell you you were no good or tell your father not to like you. Seems really sad. Sorry to hear.
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