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Institutional abuse - the last four years

Postby ID010471 » Sun Apr 19, 2020 6:56 am

I've lived alone for twenty-five years, broken up briefly with engagements in 2004 and 2007. In 2011 there was trouble with a violent neighbour which the local authority and police here (UK) handled so badly that it escalated into serious misconduct, unlawfully coercing me to return to my home when I was not safe and then lying about the meeting at which the coercion took place, which sadly I can't challenge due to having no savings and the undermining of Legal Aid facilities in this country. I've written countless letters to both the guilty and to solicitors and journalists in the hope of assistance. This has worn me down massively, to the point that I do struggle with suicidal thoughts at times. I would love to just walk away, and I hear about people arriving (naively, I'd say now) in the UK with fifty quid in their pocket. I'd love to go to Ireland and had been near to leaving before the lockdown.

The way these authorities have behaved is disgraceful. If the worst came to the worst and this became a posthumous news story it would be a scandal and people would lose their jobs. I'd like to try and contact people who've lost hope of getting restitution to listen to how they manage with it. I have perspective about my situation - there must be victims of awful assaults and worse who are treated shabbily by the police. Their sense of injustice must at least for a time be crippling.

These people saw a man on his own with no money and they have been arrogant and complacent.

Against this backdrop I've also been treated abysmally by family and was also scammed by someone I'd thought to be a friend, which if anything has hit me harder than the main issue with the authorities. Not that I'd been gullible exactly but over-tolerant, over-patient, and I really do have to alter the way I interact with people. A bit more anger when appropriate, unbottled, is going to be necessary to survive, without being dragged into the fashionable hard-nosed existence.

I've always been haunted by posts in some Google forums made by a man who is clearly very unwell who seems to have been through something like me. He has broken down quite profoundly, seemingly stuck in a loop of bitterness and anger. He spam-posts repetitive statements about what the police did to him, which despite the form of his statements I fully believe. It may be that leaving as soon as the lock-down is over is all I have to help me avoid a similar fate. But whether I can survive a period of being homeless I don't know. I can't imagine it. People do. But some merely survive, are adrift for years.

Thanks for listening. If this rings any bells or anyone would like to comment, feel free.
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Re: Institutional abuse - the last four years

Postby jaus tail » Thu Apr 23, 2020 2:59 am

ID010471 wrote:The way these authorities have behaved is disgraceful.

These people saw a man on his own with no money and they have been arrogant and complacent.

Against this backdrop I've also been treated abysmally by family and was also scammed by someone I'd thought to be a friend, which if anything has hit me harder than the main issue with the authorities.


it sucks when people with authority treat you badly and act like kings. have been in that situation and made me angry on the inside, but couldnt display it as i needed the help of the authority.

regarding being scammed by friend... been there too. i was in extreme depression. a cousin asked for some money n i gave (to feel good about myself). it took him 2-3 years, countless phone calls by me, him blocking my number, me begging to his mother, his mother refusing at first, his mother blocking my phone number, and eventually after a few years he returned the money.

later i told him you n ur mom treated me like $#%^ n he said, 'dont have such illusions in ur mind.' it hurt me very bad and still does. i pray karma gets back to him n he ends up on the street.

i think majority of people are assholes. i live in a 3rd world country where the people are worse than in europe.

ideal situation: have a few set of true friends (even 1 or 2 is more than enough) or a small but honest n reliable family, n ignore the rest of the world.
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