Therapy helped me to some extent. other than that venting here also helped. i've realized that my fears arent really irrational. they may be exagerrated but not irrational.
in 2019, if some scientist were to warn the media about a virus spread, the world would've laughed at the scientist...
Yelliot02 wrote:I had a breakdown tonight because my love interest hadn’t messaged me all day
i used to feel this too. if i didnt get a message, i'd delete all earlier texts and delete the person's number from my phone. but half hour after that i'd search for the email where i had received the number and save it again.
this is okay to some extent. what i should've done is:
look at all earlier texts with the person and realize maybe i'm overreacting.
if all the earlier texts are similar from the other end like all texts are of the format: yeah okay. ok bye. ok...
then perhaps i should speak with the person that he doesnt seem interested.
though everyone is different in the way they communicate their affection. i know people who look forward to valentines day. or parents day.
i am not a big fan of it.
how is your love interest during other time. when u guys hang out, do u have a good time. asking urself these questions can help.
Yelliot02 wrote:how to not be so impulsive
i still struggle with anger issues. like yesterday i raged at the walls n stuff...
going to gym helped me. i dont go there with an angry mindset. i just try to be regular.
i practiced non-impulsive behavior a few times. like i had to ask a query with the tax guy. i had a strong urge to ask rightaway but i consciously decided to wait till some tax results came in 2 days and then i asked him.
earlier i would've asked the tax guy rightaway. n then been embarrassed.
Yelliot02 wrote: our relationship is extremely unsteady
maybe focus on other relations as well. one relation doesnt have to be the centre of ur life or of his life. u'll end up depending a lot on each other.
i mean if u could hang out with ur other friends or make some hobby. i dont have any real life friends. but when i was dating someone, i wish i had kept some other sources of dopamine instead of relying on her 24 x 7