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Postby BrokenNotBaD » Wed Nov 27, 2019 5:13 pm

Hi just curious if anyone else feels this way, went shopping in a local supermarket. Got to Che k out and joined the long que, when was my turn I quickly emptied my basket and let the clerk scan everything as they passed it I packed as quickly as I could. The only thing is although the que was huge and I thought I was doing the right thing by getting my $#%^ done and getting out of everybody's way, I felt the clerk was pissed and probably wanted everyone to go slow so they didn't feel like a machine.
So no matter what I do I'm upsetting someone, so now I dread going shopping anyone else do anything similar?
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Re: Ashamed to go shopping

Postby Remember Ronni » Tue Dec 03, 2019 1:31 pm

I wouldn't say that I feel ashamed but for me grocery shopping is one of things that needs to be done (or you're not going to eat, right?). I probably say the same thing to every sales assistant I've ever come across - polite, calm, nice. Go home. In fact, I have been collecting the meds I do take from the same shop every month for the last 10 years. Every time I go to that counter, I tell them my full name. Same polite small talk. I got a surprise the other day, I went in there and the person at the counter used my christian name. It made me want to change pharmacies. And admittedly I do my grocery shopping online or I use the self-scanning till. I avoid if I can. When I can't, same old same old. Do the job, go home, forget about it and do something more interesting than grocery shopping :)

And remember without you those sales assistants would not have a job and they serve so many people that unless you're that horrible unpleasant person in the queue they won't even notice you or care. You DO NOT have anything to feel ashamed about - unless you are the cranky old git that gives them all a hard time.
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Re: Ashamed to go shopping

Postby jaus tail » Wed Dec 25, 2019 6:51 am

i try to go shopping with someone. normally i keep cash ready so there is not much time for the salesperson to talk or look at me. i say a small thank you before leaving.

once another lady jumped the queue n stepped ahead of me. i got superupset but didnt show my rage cause i know i'd end up weeping. happened once at bank atm too. it bothered me for five minutes but i'm glad i didnt react.
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Re: Ashamed to go shopping

Postby Manners73 » Thu Dec 26, 2019 10:57 pm

I'm not ashamed to go shopping at all but I absolutely hate it. I avoid it where possible.

Groceries I get online anyway.

I don't mind going in supermarkets as long as it doesn't interfere with my leisure time. So for me shopping is work.
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Re: Ashamed to go shopping

Postby OrbweaverLeads » Sat Jan 04, 2020 1:26 am

BrokenNotBad I agree with the others, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

I think you were being helpful and sensible. I work in customer service and always appreciate customers who are helpful and sensible. It's the complaining, time-wasting, dissatisfied customers that are difficult. It's my job to serve all my customers well, including the difficult ones!

I think you're imagining you caused offence when there was none, try not to be so hard on yourself.

As a customer, I always use the self-scan and avoid people whenever possible. If I do deal with a staff member I try to be friendly & kind as I like it when my customers are that way to me. But sometimes I'm psychotic or stressed or whatever & just get thru the interaction as fast as I can & get outta there.
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Re: Ashamed to go shopping

Postby createmeover » Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:27 am

lol i always feel ashamed when i go grocery shopping for many reasons and i blush pretty bad almost everytime :/ i many times feel bad for buying junk food or unessential itens lol
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