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What you let in to think

Permanent Linkby margharris on Wed Jun 12, 2019 4:47 am

You might think it is all about your hair, your nose, your teeth, your skin, your body, your toes, your legs, your veins. You might think it is all about what you suffered at school. You might think it is what your parent said long ago. You might think it is all about those beautiful people who dare to post selfies of how good they look. Or you might think it is what the people are saying when you walk down the street.Or you might just think it is all about what is reflected back in the mirror.
But it never is: It is only ever about what you are thinking because only you create your thought. It is the thought about your nose, or the thought about eyes or the thought about teeth or the thought about hair. It is the thought about your old school days. It is the thought about the people down the street or the thought about what your father said yesterday.
It is only the thought vibrating in your body that creates the feeling of anxiety. The thought is either acceptable and in harmony with your inner tone or soul energy or it isn't.
You are all very sensitive beings. You just can't think a horrible thought and get away with it. You are getting guidance. Your emotions are strongly telling you that the thought is wrong to think.
So the detective in me would like to know why you would think a bogus, self-critical and deceptive thought? There is nothing good in it for you. It is you in fear mode rather than love mode.
You get diagnoses of all sorts of things and loads of meds to treat the accompanying anxiety and avoidance. But it is the thought all along that's wrong. When you stop the thinking the illness goes away.
So why do you think it in the first place? You fear..maybe you might not be good enough. But you always are. You were made perfectly wonderful for your life. Your ancestors made you as their avatar. You have got a team of people barracking for you in the wings. This is your game of life to play. Love yourself enough to be your own friend. The antidote is simple love. You just forgot how much you are loved.

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update 2019

Permanent Linkby margharris on Tue Apr 09, 2019 10:09 pm

Finally the pieces of the puzzle that explain BDD and OCD are able to be put together. That is really exciting for the future recovery of those who continue to suffer.
Emotions are the key to the unlocking. We just have never known what they were trying to tell us. We have miscued there significance for most if not all our lives. Emotions are there to help us know whether the current thought is suitable to think or not. If the current thought does not harmonize well within our body, we get a negative sensation. That tells us our thinking is going out of focus with our own well being. We just never knew that.
So what BDD and OCD looks like is someone who has a really bad thought and gets a really hard notification from emotion but doesn't delete the thought. What happens next sets up the illness. The person miscues the notification from emotions to imply there is wrongness with them and not with the thought itself. This wrongness in the case of BDD focuses on the body but wrongness can just as easily be focused on something you were supposed to do as in the case of OCDs. The person has a strong awareness usually that there is doubt about all this but they seldom pick that it is the thought itself that is what is wrong. Self blame and doubting have become standard diagnostics.
To consolidate the erroneous bogus thinking the person usually hyper analyses and draws on past experiences of those who did them wrong. They need to convince themselves that their own thinking is truth. But the truth never needs proving or convincing because it feels different in the body because we have received it is 'known'. That is without doubt.
And how do we know this for sure. Emotion is created by the current made as the thought is processed by the body. No one creates your emotion but you as you think a thought. The thought fits in harmony with your body or it doesn't.
So in the past you have gone to bed to manage the strong emotions that attack you all day as a result of your thinking. But now you know it is the thought alone that is wrong and must be wrong for you to feel this bad.. What can you do?
Well most of you, will continue to argue that your thinking is not the cause of your anxiety. The defending, arguing for, pushing against and claims of visual evidence are not up to fighting your own emotions. Your emotions don't lie even when you do.
So maybe you can remember back when you first got that twingy feeling that something was wrong. It was the thought you were currently thinking. The thought was not feeling acceptable to your body. You always have emotional guidance streaming to you. Link in with it and you can turn this around the moment you do. You can't trust what you think but you can trust how the thought feels. Be guided by that to think better.

Wish you better sooner. Marg

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Awakening through BDD

Permanent Linkby margharris on Wed Dec 12, 2018 9:20 pm

I think I see BDD now as a wake up call to understanding about who we are and why we have come.
This illness, like all OCDs, shines a light on the connection between our own restless thinking self and our own feeling inner being. It is as though there has been two of us that need to now be linked up. The illness forces one to focus on the powerful emotions. You can't escape. Our emotions have been greatly underestimated. In fact we have often been taught to hide emotions. We certainly have never been taught to use them as a sophisticated guidance system.
But we do have loads of sensing guidance already. We like to know not to put our hand on the hot stove. We like to know when the sun is too strong. We like to know the food is off. In the same way we just might like to know when our thinking is off.
What happens when we have a thought that feels off but we just stay on it. That was the argument we had yesterday. What about that convo we had that felt off but we didn't say, " better go..see ya". How did that end? Did we feel good after listening to a half hour download of criticism? When it doesn't feel good that is our cue to get off that train.
We do know this stuff. That is why we no longer en mass listen to the news or read newspapers. We don't want more stuff to focus on that does not feel good. We want to shout to newsmakers to tell us something we would like to hear.
Well that is what your inner being is telling you emphatically too. " Tell me something I would like to hear" Although it is very difficult for you to believe, your thoughts just are not aligned with what your inner being thinks. So you feel the discord in a strong way. The thought you think sets up a vibration in your body that you register as distress.
Your emotions are your guidance to let you know early whether you are going off road with your thoughts.They are like the bumper strip on the side of the road. They help you harness your thinking so you stay on the path of contentment. Contented is really where you wanted to be most of the time. That is that good feeling place where you can anticipate all good things coming your way.
So when you feel strong emotion that is your call to shift focus to something that feels better or get off that subject altogether. Of course you can stay on this off topic but you know you will end up feeling bad. No good outcome from a bad feeling journey.
So it never was your appearance but the thought you had about your appearance that was off. Your inner being just would never join you in those thoughts you chose to think. There was never going to be a happy party held around those thoughts. God was trying to tell you to link into the wisdom coming through to you in the form of your own emotions. Your own emotions are always giving you feedback. God's emotions are working in you every minute telling you there is a better thought to think. When you really know this as your truth then you set yourself free from rogue unworthy thoughts for good. And that really will be good. That was the purpose of your BDD. Awakening you to all that you are.
It took us all a long time to know. But we have arrived at a sound destination where it is possible to know and possible to have a great life. Just listen to the power in your emotions. It is like a radio dial that needs setting up so you stop living in the static. You find that station called contentment and cherish its resonance. Appreciate whatever you can and the journey of knowing that got you there. In that moment of knowing you will see the world differently.
Now this emotional guidance is a skill to learn. It will take time. But there is no going back to not knowing once you do know. Emotions are your bumper strip, your white cane. Not every thought is worthy of being thought. You can always ask your inner being for a better thought to think. That better thought will pop into your mind in an instant.
It all works out in the end. Have faith. It does help....

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An update on recovery

Permanent Linkby margharris on Fri Jul 27, 2018 10:03 pm

Well a few years have past by now. We did have some set backs that almost propelled life over the cliff but we did learn a lot in that process.
My son did recover from his BDD. He still has some residual concerns but they don't bother him as much as they do me.
His life did fall over though. The girl of his dreams turned out not to be. In fact she had vastly more problems than he. With a child in the mix he had to head for the law courts. No sane person should ever go there. What takes place there would kill off the most sane of us given enough exposure. The experience of the legal system brought us to our knees. Medications were increased to help him cope but ultimately no one could cope. We had to turn back and let the child go. The mother could accomplish her desired international child abduction with the robust approval of the judiciary.
This situation is not a light load to have to carry.
I had learnt the importance of emotional guidance by this stage. So I was practicing changing thoughts to others more wanted and writing them on the white board I had placed on the fridge. When he was crying, I asked him what the thought was, he was just now thinking. He would tell me and together we would try and create a make peace thought to counter it. He had to come to the place where he was free to start over with improved understanding of how he needed to be actively managing his thinking.
I can't say he has reached that place. Learning to bring awareness to thought and how it feels is a new skill most of us have never learnt. We never understood the need. The rollercoaster of emotions that is typically the lot of all BDDers is still present. I just have to try and sell him the message that he does have full control over them. It takes recognizing that he does have thought choice and can direct his thinking to what truly feels best to think. Guidance is always coming in the form of emotion. You just have to care more about how you feel. If you feel bad stop..it is that thought now that has to be tweeked. Find relief by tuning into your own wisdom. Hopefully we can get off this bus at this stop. We can learn this skill of letting emotions guide our thinking. If it doesn't feel good it isn't good. Wish you well. Marg

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How my son recovered.

Permanent Linkby margharris on Fri Nov 27, 2015 10:14 pm

It is about 9 months since starting this blog. A lot has changed over these months. My son has gone from a bedridden psychotic to a competent young man. He is now employed, living with his girlfriend and is only required to see his psychiatrist once a month. The crisis has been resolved.
By his own account he is 95% recovered and is in the best head-space he can ever remember. So why do I think this occurred?

What I now realize is that my son was ready for a cure. His ego was in fragments. He had no energy invested to fight for his own beliefs. He wanted to find someone to give him hope. BDD thinking didn’t work and he wanted to think differently. So he being in such a bad way inadvertently worked in his favour. He had no defences that wanted to dismiss help. He was no longer ego invested to prove he was right to anyone.

We meet the best professor in the field we could have ever hoped for. He had done research work with Katherine Phillips. He had many patients he had treated. He could appreciate my son’s fears and was warm and compassionate. My son knew that the professor knew and in that exchange a bond was formed. The professor’s beliefs were firmly based in reality. My son was able to hear and incorporate the views of the professor without a fight. This had never happened with any other therapist. My son was able to understand reality through his connection to someone he admired and trusted. It is as though he actually got for the first time that the professor was invested in telling him the truth. We all had been but he never understood that.

The medication altered my son’s brain chemistry. Prozac was increased over a month until a therapeutic result was obtained. 60mg worked at around 9 to 10 weeks. The dose was later pulled back to 40mg after a big improvement was already well underway. Had there been no improvement a dose of up to 100mg might have been required. Initially Lyrica was used as an adjunct to manage an intolerable level of anxiety. We moved from 150mg to 300 mg as needed. Some sexual issues and insomnia are side effects needing medication still but they are manageable.

No CBT has ever been offered. As BDD is primarily a thought disorder, originating in the brain chemistry, it was consistent that treating the biochemistry would resolve the thinking. Any residual behaviours would be challenged as thoughts became realistic. That is exactly what happened. He can now tell me no one cares because he doesn’t any more. So almost all his compulsions fell away as his thinking became real.

ACT therapy was the type of approach the case worker who came to the house used. Acting according to what you valued, meant that my son was to keep very busy doing stuff that mattered. He took up cooking with a passion that filled the whole day. He reconnected to all his friends and made regular meetups with them. His enthusiasm for life reignited. So a super effort in time management was required to beat the addiction to intrusive thought attacks.

I can’t underestimate my own contribution as well. I wrote the blogs as we went and he read them. He knew he had to resist compulsions. He still does. Over time it got easier.

So that is our recipe for recovery. Not easy but doable. Keep trying to find your personal recipe. A word of caution. Surgery is not an option to consider, that is the truth.

Hope we have been able to help. Marg

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