I obviously didn't write it, but I wanted to save it here, because it moved and comforted me and I want to read it over and over. Thanks to Luvmycats
[quote="Luvmycats"]Borg and Owleyes: I've struggled with that too as whether mine was "bad enough" especially when you hear other stories that can be so horrific. I start to feel guilty. But, I also know that it's not one of those games where we have to "one-up" the other's story to be any more real. So what I'm saying, every person's ability to cope is different. If you dissociate, there's a reason and it doesn't have to be justified by how bad the abuse was in comparison. There is no comparison. So take it easy on yourself and nurture (if you can) that part that needs soothing or validated. It doesn't matter what is real and what isn't real- your mind works and reacts to your perception of your reality.[/quote]