var title = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum Psychology Feed';
		var url = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/random_blogs_c-3.html';
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		var site_desc = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum';
		var time = 'Tue, 26 Aug 2025 06:24:30 -0400';

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		data[0]['title'] = 'emotional hijacking and learning to take personal responsibility';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/emotional_hijacking_and_learning_to_take_personal_responsibility_c-3_u-333179_b-9772.html';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/emotional_hijacking_and_learning_to_take_personal_responsibility_c-3_u-333179_b-9772.html';
		data[0]['username'] = 'Stab1l1ty';
		data[0]['blog_id'] = '9772';
		data[0]['blog_message'] = 'Hello everyone! Here is another post that I wonder if anyone can relate to?<br /><br />Now I have recognized that I do have some good qualities as I began to understand and rebuild myself but I find that I have also exploited these qualities in the past, distant and and not so distant. At I times I have  even justified my actions with these qualities for example talking myself out of returning a phone call from my mother, I&#039;ll tell  myself that attending to my life changes are more important, I can&#039;t disrupt this noble and righteous work, then anger will justify the frustration of having to make these life changes then ill hold her responsible for my current emotional and mental struggles. Ill think she doesn&#039;t deserve to speak with me, she deserves to suffer like me, she should be punished. (I know very immature,  Its as if bpd is one the more extreme symptoms of immaturity)<br /><br />Or my sadness will justify my depression after acknowledging how sensitive I am.  For an example I&#039;ll use avoiding my mothers call again, I&#039;ll think to myself that I deserve to be alone for all the stress and pain I have caused others, that there is so much growth that needs to transpire before I can effectively communicate with anyone. That I don&#039;t have anything worth saying, that I don&#039;t want to worry anyone with my issues and ineptitude. (Really I&#039;m just removing a level of responsibility and accountability over my own actions that I believe I&#039;m too exhausted for, too depressed to invest my energy in to)<br />This is where My Fear interjects sometimes, creating thoughts like I would just embarrass myself if I try to educate or inform my mother on my current condition because I don&#039;t really know myself like i once believed I did, I&#039;ll sound uninformed to her, like I&#039;m not trying to change, or I&#039;m not taking the growth that needs to transpire seriously enough. (The shame would be too much to bear apparently is what Im thinking here, once again I see myself hiding from a level of responsibility because of the fear of emotional shame, which is related to heightened level of emotional sensitivity leaving me fearful of many personal and social situations/confrontations)<br /><br />Another thing I have become recently hip to is the projection of these insecurities on he world. What I believe people are thinking about me or fear that they may be thinking, really are just what i deep down think about myself. And it does not stop at people i project my demeanor on to all things, in my eyes the world has become as tumultuous as my soul, A place where joy does not exist only struggle and heartache.  I believe by improving my perception of self my projection on to the world will also improve, my perception of the world will improve and i will see the beauty of life again.';
		data[0]['blog_time'] = 'Sun, 20 Mar 2016 19:43:32 -0400';
		

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		data[1]['title'] = 'Am I pervert?';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/am_i_pervert%CA%94_c-3_u-262027_b-7155.html';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/am_i_pervert%CA%94_c-3_u-262027_b-7155.html';
		data[1]['username'] = 'Owlshirt';
		data[1]['blog_id'] = '7155';
		data[1]['blog_message'] = 'Obviously I&#039;m going to know the answer, it&#039;s just I want to hear another persons opinion. <br />I&#039;m a 16 year old girl and I like fantasizing about things, sometimes it&#039;s actually meaningful and sweet, then sometimes it&#039;s just dirty sex with this guy I have been dreaming about lately.<br />I dunno what drives me, but it turns me on so much to be &quot;dominant&quot; over the person, not like &quot;chains and whips&quot; (No, not at ALL) but in a way that the other person can&#039;t say &quot;no&quot; to?<br />Who knows, I&#039;m pretty sure I&#039;m a pervert but I don&#039;t really know why or how I became one.<br />(^-^)';
		data[1]['blog_time'] = 'Sun, 29 Jun 2014 23:38:08 -0400';
		

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		data[2]['title'] = 'i feel terrible';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_feel_terrible_c-3_u-445270_b-12140.html';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_feel_terrible_c-3_u-445270_b-12140.html';
		data[2]['username'] = 'peachyjordyn';
		data[2]['blog_id'] = '12140';
		data[2]['blog_message'] = 'so, i was about 12 when all of this had happened. it started with a prank where my friend dared me to pretend to be this girls boyfriend online (i am a female). i wanted to stop the prank but my friend forced me to keep going and get nudes from the girl we pranked. the girl ended up sending them andy i ended the prank kinda rudely. i said “there’s a hot girl at school bye.” the girl we pranked ended up not going to school the next day and i thought nothing of it. a while later and i was with the friend i pranked. that friend and i were playing truth or dare. she had dared me to do things like twerk in my underwear, take my shirt off and show my boobs. then, i dared her to lick my vagina. she ended up doing just that. she was trying to get me to lick her but i said no. her mom ended up somehow finding out and guys at school were saying that i made that girl lick me. instinctively i knew she told people even though she swore she didn’t. my mom was told everything by her mom and we had a meeting with the four of us. i apologized and th girl apologized. we hung out and played air hockey after. then i was at school and a police officer handcuffed me and said that that girls mom called him and told him everything. (keep in mind this is after the four of us met and talked and me and that friend actually hung out a few times.). so this police officer had told me that i committed crimes like: child pornography, cyber bullying, and sexual harassment. i was crying and he said i was fake crying. he also told me i could go to juvenile hall. apparently the friends mom didn’t want to file charges or go to court so i don’t get the point of telling a police officer. i am just very worried that this will prevent me from getting a job and going to college. the police officer said that my friend AND her mom talked before calling the police. i talked to my friend and she claims she never heard a word about it. she was actually at a foster home at the time because her mom got really mad at her. so technically the mother could get in trouble. i have been scared of police ever since this. i just need help and comfort. i was only 12 and i was exploring. and i’m still scared today.';
		data[2]['blog_time'] = 'Wed, 30 May 2018 18:37:58 -0400';
		

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		data[3]['title'] = 'Nurses who stutter';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/nurses_who_stutter_c-3_u-249126_b-5904.html';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/nurses_who_stutter_c-3_u-249126_b-5904.html';
		data[3]['username'] = 'harmony87';
		data[3]['blog_id'] = '5904';
		data[3]['blog_message'] = 'Hello,<br />I am new to this forum. I was wondering if there is anyone else in this forum who is in the healthcare field and has a stutter? i consider myself a mild stutterer bc I have days where I am very fluent.';
		data[3]['blog_time'] = 'Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:20:51 -0500';
		

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		data[4]['title'] = 'Am I just Paranoid or crazy..';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/am_i_just_paranoid_or_crazy.._c-3_u-279532_b-8138.html';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/am_i_just_paranoid_or_crazy.._c-3_u-279532_b-8138.html';
		data[4]['username'] = 'hazey-gal';
		data[4]['blog_id'] = '8138';
		data[4]['blog_message'] = 'I  carry around a little pocket knife , when its just me and my daughter home. I won&#039;t take a nap when my daughter is sleeping aswell because I&#039;m scared someone might take her while im sleeping or threaten to hurt her to make me do things. My mind continuously comes up with bad situations (example-if someone is knocking at the door I get paranoid they might force there way inside and hurt me or my family so ignore it but then I think if I  ignore it they might think no ones home and break in ). I  feel safe when my partner and everyone is home, but when its bedtime I lay awake and feel like someone&#039;s watching me from the windows or is going to break In and kill all of us. When I dose off I wake up scared when I feel my partner is gone and I jump to conclusions he has been dragged away and stabbed but in reality he just goes to the toilet a lot during the night . I usually end up grabbing a knife and putting it safely near me till I finally fall asleep which normally is around 3 in the morning. I feel it&#039;s my job to protect my family and if I let my guard down, someone will take their life&#039;s away and mine. I try to talk to my partner about it but he just says &quot;stop thinking silly&quot;, I&#039;m trying to stop but its not easy.  Am I just to paranoid or crazy...';
		data[4]['blog_time'] = 'Tue, 10 Mar 2015 09:12:20 -0400';