var title = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum Psychology Feed';
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var time = 'Mon, 25 Aug 2025 03:21:32 -0400';
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data[0]['title'] = 'I'm in love/like with someone with ASPD';
data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i%CA%B9m_in_lovelike_with_someone_with_aspd_c-3_u-440784_b-11693.html';
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data[0]['username'] = 'caseyy123';
data[0]['blog_id'] = '11693';
data[0]['blog_message'] = 'you see, I've liked him for some time now but never went for it cause I used to think he was weird. (attractive though) but for the past few months him and I have been really talking. & he told me he has ASPD which I've now been researching a lot because I genuinely care for him and want to make sure he's like you know, okay?
I can't tell if he likes me or not or if we're going anywhere though? I've expressed to him many times how I like him and he thinks its odd/weird? is that bad? He let me take his V-Card but then afterwards said it felt like it didn't even happen because he doesn't really have "emotions". I'm so confused, he says he likes being with me and cuddling with me and he wants to see me like every chance he can & he blows up my phone when he gets on break/wakes up before I do or if I'm not messaging back. he's not mean or rude, he's not addicted to drugs. the only thing about him is he acts sort of emotionless like he doesn't like expressing his feelings/getting emotional? and he doesn't like kissing either which is weird cause most guys his age (19) do you know?
I really am so confused and I think I'm falling in love with him, he's the first guy I've liked since my last relationship which was a year & took a lot of healing time so I'm afraid.. should I keep going and see where it goes without getting my hopes up? or does it sound like I should just give up..? (I rather not) but I'd like to hear opinions from others with ASPD and your feelings about love.. have you ever been in love or felt strongly about someone?';
data[0]['blog_time'] = 'Mon, 11 Dec 2017 13:47:06 -0500';
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data[1]['title'] = 'I don't know';
data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_don%CA%B9t_know_c-3_u-81324_b-2104.html';
data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_don%CA%B9t_know_c-3_u-81324_b-2104.html';
data[1]['username'] = 'littleā„monster';
data[1]['blog_id'] = '2104';
data[1]['blog_message'] = 'I just don't understand my "family". I leave my purse and wallet out on the table and they come and go through it. They just pick my wallet up and flip through my check book. And when I said something my grandmother got mad. She just got mad and smarted me off, then walked away. It's like this all the time, it's like I'm supposed to let them run over me and do or say whatever they want about me or my stuff, and if I say anything I'm a bitch or I don't know what I'm talking about. Honestly it makes me sick just to be here. Sometimes I just feel like I can't take it anymore, like my time is over and I should just commit suicide.';
data[1]['blog_time'] = 'Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:16:18 -0500';
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data[2]['title'] = 'projecting?';
data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/projecting%CA%94_c-3_u-457238_b-12656.html';
data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/projecting%CA%94_c-3_u-457238_b-12656.html';
data[2]['username'] = 'tiredwife';
data[2]['blog_id'] = '12656';
data[2]['blog_message'] = 'I have always heard that when being accused of something (that you aren't and haven't done,) it's more than likely because your accuser is guilty of such. I'm certain this doesn't apply to every situation, but realistically, how often does this actually happen to you?
Based upon my husband's past experiences with a wife that cheated, drank, and drugged herself into a stupor, I understand his skepticism. I however, do not do anything at all similar, don't look similar, don't act or speak similarly. We are not the same. I am his second wife.
For the past year, it has turned into him yelling, screaming "shut your f***ing mouth" "listen to me when i speak to you" "you will respect me," and things of that nature. He tells me not to talk over him, not interrupt him, and then when I ask for a moment of his time, he cuts me off and uses his hands as a "stop" gesture to end what I have to say. In all honesty, I do not feel as though my husband respects me, or cares at all about the things I say. I am a very brutally honest and blunt, and some would say pessimistic person. I believe I just know better how to prepare for situations, and expect others to disappoint me, so I work things our in such a way that I do not get disappointed. I look at life with a very real sense of what can and cannot be accomplished in a given amount of time. I am very time-oriented.
My husband tells me that I assume to much. An example:
I tell him one thing in the A.M., he forgets by lunch 5 days in a row, and tells me that he forgot every evening. I tell him the same message on the 6th day, he gets bent out of shape because "I assumed he would forget and now I am nagging." I personally do not find that nagging or assuming. It is using deductive reasoning or taking what was learned from first-hand experiences, and applying it to the situation. This is something that happens every week.
He accuses me of being childish, immature, and needing to grow the f*** up.
I do not raise my voice at him. I am the mother of his child. I keep the house running. I am overseer of all of the financials. I went to college. I make more money than him. I have two college degrees. I am a female in a predominately male professional trade, decisive, direct, and dedicated. I have more real-world experience than he does. I am literal. To the point. Callous, if you will. I do not mince words. I say exactly what the situation calls for, and I use the correct vernacular for emotions and feelings. I had to grow up fast, and by whatever means necessary, while he grew up in the same house all his life, was the youngest of three children with a stay at home mother, and overly religious upbringing, had no responsibilities, and never been told no. I do not play games. He says I do. He is the one that plays games, blatantly ignoring repeated phone calls and going out of his way to make me feel inadequate.
Really, that's just two examples..but just this morning we had the biggest blow-up of our relationship because I asked for clarification on what he meant by a statement, and it turned into very seriously hurtful words and screaming.
Any advice, folks?';
data[2]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 31 Jan 2019 14:08:34 -0500';
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data[3]['title'] = '...';
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data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/..._c-3_u-80481_b-2003.html';
data[3]['username'] = 'lilnumber9';
data[3]['blog_id'] = '2003';
data[3]['blog_message'] = '...';
data[3]['blog_time'] = 'Sun, 15 Jan 2012 16:50:19 -0500';
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data[4]['title'] = 'eI hav a characted in my head, and he won't leave me alone.';
data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/ei_hav_a_characted_in_my_head_and_he_won%CA%B9t_leave_me_alone._c-3_u-282940_b-8262.html';
data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/ei_hav_a_characted_in_my_head_and_he_won%CA%B9t_leave_me_alone._c-3_u-282940_b-8262.html';
data[4]['username'] = 'pennyfortheselfish';
data[4]['blog_id'] = '8262';
data[4]['blog_message'] = 'I am a 19 year old girl and I have this male character about my age in my head, he has a name and characteristics and personality and everything already thought out for him. He's not alone, he has a bunch of friends...also in my head. I switch mainly between him and me, his friends are all just there for some reason.
When I was in middle school I was bullied and alone so I started "creating friends" to entertain me during lunches...now, everytime I find myself feeling lonely, they're automatically there. Sometimes they're there when I'm hanging out with other (real) people but that doesn't happen too often.
I started out thinking I have DID but now I'm confused, I can tell him to leave and he will but then he comes back again. It's mostly him talking to me and giving me advice and helping me but sometimes I actually become him and I end up just sitting on my sofa, staring at the wall, or walking around my room living in this imaginary world in my head. Sometimes I end up making faces or using body language without realizing that I am. Sometimes when something happens to me (when I am him) that saddens "him", I physically cry. Or I can feel pain (I don't know how to explain that).
I often find myself isolating myself from friends and family just to be him in that world.
I'm just wondering if anyone else experiences this? What is this? I can't seem to put a word on it. Also, I have no idea why I'm suddenly identifying with a male...
I haven't seen any posts similar to this so if someone experiences this I would be really glad if they could share cause I am so confused all the time.
- Penny';
data[4]['blog_time'] = 'Tue, 14 Apr 2015 18:26:27 -0400';