var title = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum Psychology Feed';
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		var time = 'Sat, 13 Sep 2025 14:59:33 -0400';

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		data[0]['title'] = 'Need help, am I gay bi or straight?';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/need_help_am_i_gay_bi_or_straight%CA%94_c-3_u-252308_b-6176.html';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/need_help_am_i_gay_bi_or_straight%CA%94_c-3_u-252308_b-6176.html';
		data[0]['username'] = '23yroldguy';
		data[0]['blog_id'] = '6176';
		data[0]['blog_message'] = 'Hi there, I need some help.  I am very confused about my Sexuality and not sure whether I am gay or bi, or even straight.  <br /><br />I&#039;ll tell you my story,  I am from South America and as a kid I messed around with my friends sexually just trying to experiment as it was easier than getting girls...  We wanted girls but decided to play around with each other...   That was when I was 13-15 I am now 23.  We probably spent half a year messing about, if was never emotional or anything like that but just sexual..  <br /><br />I&#039;ve lived all my life liking girls ever since and have felt love for women too.  I&#039;ve had two Gfs (real ones), the last one I was with for five years and the current one for around 7 months.    I&#039;ve never really looked at guys at all in any emotional way but I do like to mess around with guys sexually..  And have done a few times in the last 6years..  From oral to sex.   Most of the time I didn&#039;t enjoy it but it was a sexual thing and fancied oral sex...  That&#039;s as far as it got with men...  Just casual sexual encounters...  Not often but we could say once ever three or four months...  I haven&#039;t since with my Gf as I have been truly happy with her and feel deeply in love with her and always have enjoyed her body too.  <br /><br />Around two weeks ago or just a bit less than that I told her about my sexual experiences and that I think I might be bisexual,   however since then I have developed somewhat of an ocd, hocd...  Re questioning my Sexuality asking myself whether my whole life as straight has been an illusion and even force myself to see myself with a guy.  It doesn&#039;t really attract me, but I can&#039;t say I would never do it as I think if I can sexually be aroused by men too then it means something,  and I have not been able to stop forcing myself into thinking if I am gay or not, and that surely I must be if I fantasise about men whilst with women,  <br /><br />I don&#039;t understand whether it&#039;s something in my head that has caused me to not stop thinking about my sexual orientation or whether I&#039;m gay but have never really seen it until now, the emotional side I mean...  And reconfuse myself by acknowledging that I haven&#039;t really at all ever felt emotions for guys, but many times for girls.  <br /><br />I guess I need to establish whether I can be straight and then turn gay, or if I&#039;m simply bisexual, or if I just like sex with men too..  And that&#039;s it.  As that&#039;s how it&#039;s felt all my life.  <br /><br />I think about everything to do with this, asking myself if it&#039;s that I don&#039;t want to be gay and I just have forced myself to be straight, but it&#039;s hard to put that to ground as I think at least I would have acknowledged emotions for men before, which I truly haven&#039;t until all this began.  <br /><br />Any ideas comments would be greatly appreciated.. As I can&#039;t even function a normal life atm..  And when I think of being gay and not being with my current Gf it makes me sick as I want to be with her,  or maybe I want it that way because it would just be easier?.';
		data[0]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 16 Jan 2014 08:34:00 -0500';
		

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		data[1]['title'] = 'I don't know. Help?';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_don%CA%B9t_know._help%CA%94_c-3_u-384943_b-10589.html';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_don%CA%B9t_know._help%CA%94_c-3_u-384943_b-10589.html';
		data[1]['username'] = 'brahidk';
		data[1]['blog_id'] = '10589';
		data[1]['blog_message'] = 'I&#039;ve never participated in anything like this before, but it&#039;s cheaper than a psychiatrist and healthier than the other &quot;outlets&quot; I had in mind. I don&#039;t know where this post is going but I&#039;m just going to let my mind leak onto this blog or whatever the heck this this is and see where it takes me. <br /><br />Lately things haven&#039;t been so hot. I experience major highs where everything is &quot;fine&quot; and I&#039;m truly content with everything and major, and I mean MAJOR lows where I feel the absolute opposite. I know what you&#039;re thinking, bipolar disorder. I haven&#039;t been diagnosed so I don&#039;t know for sure. But that&#039;s not the only thing that&#039;s &quot;wrong.&quot;<br /><br />I&#039;ve been having problems with daily/everyday tasks due to my inability to focus, my lack of ability to sleep normally, mood fluctuations, weight gain, lack of motivation, constant nervousness, and always second guessing myself. <br /><br />I&#039;m completely fine when I&#039;m around my friends, but the second I&#039;m left alone, man... All hell breaks lose in my mind. It&#039;s like all the thoughts that I was too distracted to distracted to think about when I was with my friends come out all at once and it overwhelms me and causes me to be more anxious. <br /><br />My symptoms include:<br />-lack of focus<br />-major insomnia<br />-mood fluctuations<br />-loss of motivation<br />-constant second guessing of self<br />-constant anxiety, stress, nervousness<br />-shaky hands<br />-frequent headaches<br />-hot flashes<br />-easily startled<br />-forgetful<br />-nausea<br />-irritability<br />-early morning wakefulness (waking up at like 3 or 4 and not being able to go back to sleep)<br />-loss of interest in things that once caught my attention.<br /><br />I don&#039;t know what my diagnosis is. If anyone wants to give it a shot as to what&#039;s going on with me, I&#039;m open to anyone&#039;s input. I know, I should really see someone but I&#039;m using that as an absolute last resort...<br /><br />I don&#039;t know if anyone will see this, let alone spent the time to actually read this crap but if there&#039;s someone out there reading this, I would appreciate any input you have. <br /><br />All the best,<br />Me.';
		data[1]['blog_time'] = 'Wed, 28 Dec 2016 05:24:36 -0500';
		

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		data[2]['title'] = 'I think my BF has relationship anxiety';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_think_my_bf_has_relationship_anxiety_c-3_u-415729_b-11186.html';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_think_my_bf_has_relationship_anxiety_c-3_u-415729_b-11186.html';
		data[2]['username'] = 'lonelylatina17';
		data[2]['blog_id'] = '11186';
		data[2]['blog_message'] = 'I&#039;m in a long distance relationship for 8 months but we&#039;ve known each other for 3 years. Recently my BF told me that he is confused about the relationship and he&#039;s not sure he wants to be in one. Everything was going very well. I would go visit him and he&#039;d visit me. We talked everyday, texted all the time &amp; Skype. He&#039;d tell me he loved me all the time &amp; that he missed me (when we were apart). Memorial Day weekend we went camping with friends of his and we had a good time. I came home and about 3 weeks after he went MIA. He was distant. Out of the blue on Wednesday he tells me he&#039;s not sure he wants a relationship or be in one. He still wants to talk. I started searching anxiety online and found there&#039;s a thing called relationship anxiety. He does suffer from anxiety. When I read the symptoms of this type of anxiety it fit him perfectly. My question is how do I handle the situation, how can I help him? Or should I let him be so he can decide wether or not he does want to be with me. I love this guy to death so I&#039;m crushed about this. It&#039;s hard to let go.';
		data[2]['blog_time'] = 'Sat, 17 Jun 2017 00:02:18 -0400';
		

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		data[3]['title'] = 'Now What?';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/now_what%CA%94_c-3_u-141975_b-4223.html';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/now_what%CA%94_c-3_u-141975_b-4223.html';
		data[3]['username'] = 'Hartlepool_lad';
		data[3]['blog_id'] = '4223';
		data[3]['blog_message'] = 'I am Hartlepool_lad, I have tried to type my experience on the blog about seven or eight times but each time I have erased it, the abusive voice in my head yells at me that no one is interested in my story and that I am alone, pathetic and other words that have been planted in my mind which I don&#039;t wish to reveal at the moment.<br /><br />My systematic mental and physical destruction was to start  almost immediately, I couldn&#039;t call or meet friends I had to explain where I&#039;d been why I&#039;d had to go there and what I had been doing while there and who had I spoken to, my phone and internet were checked as were my texts and e-mails. Bank account details were demanded and checked almost daily and a reason had to be forthcoming if I had withdrawn money, receipts were checked if I had paid for anything with my card, I was cut off from contacting family as she would put it “this is the only family that matters to you now” this was being constantly shored up with abuse of the type that I was crap at what I do, a useless person and painful insults that I can only shudder at now, I was verbally abused everyday, physically abused every day, I have been beaten, punched, kicked, humiliated, stabbed, had buckets of hot bleach thrown over me her aggression hightened if the house wasn&#039;t clean enough the dish washer hadn&#039;t been emptied or the ironing hadn&#039;t been done exactly how she wanted, constant accusations of infidelity, squandering money, being a useless person.<br /><br />Then the torture of previous relationships started, I was given full and frank details of all the one night stands she&#039;d had, I was informed  by an ex friend of hers that she&#039;d had threesomes and multiple encounters in one weekend.<br /><br />She would regale me with the sordid details of these encounters and once estimated she&#039;d had in excess of two hundred that she could remember and not counting the drunken one night stands she couldn&#039;t, all the while telling me that I was worthless, useless, a crap person etc.<br /><br />It all came to a head in September 2005 when after months and years of such brutal torment the stress levels had reached such levels that my brain shut down for three days, I didn&#039;t know who I was, anything about myself, what I did for a job, my past anything.<br /><br />I was diagnosed with P.T.S.D. Dissociative Amnesia, severe depression, social phobia and I have lost everything, my memories of my life are just shadows, the event is, as always right at the front of my eyes, she still haunts my mind and still continues to influence me inside my head, I have no respite.<br /><br />Hartlepool_lad.';
		data[3]['blog_time'] = 'Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:27:02 -0500';
		

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		data[4]['title'] = 'Be more 'social' they tell me!';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/be_more_%CA%B9social%CA%B9_they_tell_me%C7%83_c-3_u-123057_b-3977.html';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/be_more_%CA%B9social%CA%B9_they_tell_me%C7%83_c-3_u-123057_b-3977.html';
		data[4]['username'] = 'therestorativeniche';
		data[4]['blog_id'] = '3977';
		data[4]['blog_message'] = 'Until recently, I never viewed my introversion as much of problem.  I was told at work that I &quot;need to be more social&quot;. This really struck a cord with me because I never thought that as I began my adult life my introversion may limit my success . So I decided to start this blog and chronicle my journey of becoming &#039;more social&#039;. <br /><br />Why are you so quiet? He must me hiding something...<br /><br />Now this is easier said than done of course. My whole life people have been telling me, &#039;you&#039;re so quiet&#039;,  &#039;you should talk more&#039; or my new favorite &#039;be more social&#039;. It&#039;s gotten to the point where some people feel uncomfortable around me because I&#039;m so quiet. What is it that makes them so uncomfortable? Is it that my behavior or lack there of, is so unusual they just can&#039;t stand it? Is it that I&#039;m some psycho who&#039;s going to snap at any moment? Is it the natural human tendency to be afraid of someone who&#039;s not like you? Not my problem right? They should be more understanding. Well unfortunately in a world of extroverts it is my problem. As much as I would love to live in a world where everyone accepts each other the way they are, that&#039;s just not reality. It&#039;s an extroverts world and if I&#039;m going to thrive and not just survive, I&#039;ve got to get to work and figure something out. So I&#039;m going to be more &#039;social&#039;. I&#039;m not sure what that will look like, but in the following months, if not years, I will try and look deeper into the complex relationship that introverts and extroverts have and attempt different strategies for becoming more &#039;social&#039;.  <br /><br />Why is it that quiet people make others feel uncomfortable?<br /><br />Please share your thoughts.';
		data[4]['blog_time'] = 'Fri, 11 Jan 2013 01:53:30 -0500';