var title = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum Psychology Feed';
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		var time = 'Tue, 05 Aug 2025 14:33:29 -0400';

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		data[0]['title'] = 'Was it really rape?';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/was_it_really_rape%CA%94_c-3_u-411731_b-11116.html';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/was_it_really_rape%CA%94_c-3_u-411731_b-11116.html';
		data[0]['username'] = 'lotsofquestions';
		data[0]['blog_id'] = '11116';
		data[0]['blog_message'] = 'Recently I was at a party where many people were intoxicated, myself included. There was a lot of dancing and girls grinding on guys and groping and whatever else happens on a dance floor probably happened here. While at this party I talked to a lot of people and remember every detail I just didn&#039;t have the proper control of myself as I was heavily intoxicated. Nearing the end of the night I was approached by a boy who somehow knew me although I wasn&#039;t sure who he was. I walked away but he was insistent to talk. He pulled me closer to him and kissed me. We made out and everything was fine. Now, at this party people were staying in tents or their cars on the property and I had a tent with my friend. This guy that I was with asked me if I had a tent and I said yes, he took that as an invite and said &quot;that beats sleeping on the floor&quot;. I wasn&#039;t 100% comfortable with him coming back with me but, I am the type that has a hard time saying no when someone says they&#039;ll be sleeping outside or whatever else. So he followed me back to my tent and I warned my friend before he came in. I was quite tired as it was very late and I was ready to go to bed but this guy was grabbing me and kissing my neck and wouldn&#039;t stop. I would push his hands away and he would tell me to &quot;stop&quot; or &quot;just let it happen&quot;. Although, I continued to ask him to stop he continued until i sat up and said he needed to stop. At that point he got angry and told me that I was being a tease and i needed to &quot;get him off&quot; before he could go to bed. I said I just wanted to sleep and was feeling quite emotional, he was about to leave when i started to cry, as I was just yelled at when I didn&#039;t want to have sex with him. He told me it was fine and we would just cuddle and sleep. When we were back under my blanket he started at it again and i continued to tell him to stop as i still wasn&#039;t wanting to have sex with him and he started getting angry again. He was kissing me and had his hand wrapped around my neck. I was afraid of his anger as i didn&#039;t know him nor what he was capable of and i didn&#039;t want him to wake people so i complied and told him that we could have sex. About half way through i started crying and he told me if i was loud he would choke me harder so i sat there and let him do what he wanted.<br /><br />I complied and told him it was okay for him to do what he did although the multiple times i said no and i felt pressured into this situation. It continues to haunt my dreams and I don&#039;t feel like myself anymore. But, was it rape...';
		data[0]['blog_time'] = 'Mon, 22 May 2017 01:14:02 -0400';
		

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		data[1]['title'] = 'Confused gay or straight';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/confused_gay_or_straight_c-3_u-336892_b-9812.html';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/confused_gay_or_straight_c-3_u-336892_b-9812.html';
		data[1]['username'] = 'zeeshan399';
		data[1]['blog_id'] = '9812';
		data[1]['blog_message'] = 'Plz help me. i&#039;m very much confused about my sextual identity. <br />i have a strong attraction for boys. i watch gay porn movies. had sex with some guys also before marriage. i though every thing will be ok after marriage but thats not the case. i dont really like to spend time with my wife. and i still have strong feelings and attraction for boys. i dont know am i gay? <br />i enjoy when i spend time with a boy while having sex. but after that i regret for what i did. help me please what should i do.';
		data[1]['blog_time'] = 'Sat, 02 Apr 2016 17:02:59 -0400';
		

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		data[2]['title'] = 'HOCD is ruining my life';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/hocd_is_ruining_my_life_c-3_u-118937_b-3921.html';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/hocd_is_ruining_my_life_c-3_u-118937_b-3921.html';
		data[2]['username'] = 'mastercross1';
		data[2]['blog_id'] = '3921';
		data[2]['blog_message'] = 'OK. so first of all my name is Phil and i am 17 years old and a few months ago i have had the fear of becoming gay. I am a very anxious person and have always worried about things ever since i was about 5. for example, i would worry that i would go deaf, blind, have a heart condition etc. Every time i get over a fear and stop worrying a new worry comes to my mind maybe a few weeks later. my longest fear was that i had a retinal detachment because i saw floaters in my vision which were completely normal. i went to the doctors 3 times in 2 years. they scanned my eyes and did the best eye exam i ever experienced but afterwards i would always convince myself that there was still something wrong. i would always check and squint to see these things floating in my vision to the point i would feel sick and have panic attacks. when i was 11, i also felt a pain in my eye 24/7 and it got me really worried. but 1 month later when i went to the doctors and they said everything was OK, i never felt it again. it is clear to me that this was pain that i was causing by thinking!<br />now to the HOCD. A few months ago, i had this dream that i was watching 2 men kissing eachother. i felt no pleasure in the dream whatsoever. i then woke up sweating and panicking, disgusted by this dream. this was always in the back of my mind for 1 month until i really started to think about it. i was forcing these gay thoughts on myself to see if i would get aroused. it didnt at first but i was thinking about not getting an erection so bad that it increased in size a tiny bit and i had a panic attack. it didnt feel like an erection i would get though that i would get when i think of something nice like girls. Before all this, i had never had a gay thought and i actually used to think about gay stuff to make my erection go down when i had an unwanted one when i was in school last year:) I have always loved girls ever since i can remember and and i know deep down that I am not gay and this is just a worry like my other OCD problems in the past. I always look for attention from girls when i am shopping for example. i am apparently a cute/attractive guy and i love it when i know girls are checking me out. today i saw this girl and i would walk around her on purpose so she would see me because i knew she was checking me out and i just love that tingly feeling. But then i thought &quot;what if i am just imagining this attraction&quot; and gay images came into my head and i started to worry again. I have never checked out guys in my life until this HOCD kicked in. As soon as i see a good looking man, i just look and fear that i am attracted to him which i know im not but i just wait for ages for some feeling to make myslef worry even more. I cant control it.<br />However, when i am totally relaxed and haven&#039;t thought about gay things all day and then think about it, it doesnt do anything to me. i dont worry and i dont feel disgusted. but the more i think and think i find it hard to breathe and get this weird feeling. yesterday when i was really relaxed, i had an erection and went on gay porn to check if this is just my mind and my erection went down so fast. <br />This HOCD was much worse than it is now but it keeps coming and going and i want it to stop because it is really ridiculous but i cant control it whatsoever and it is ruining my life. it is as if i am like possessed and there is another person inside me making me worry. <br />please help me. i dont know how to stop it. i have had so many OCD problems in the past but this is really the worst one.<br />thanks for reading!';
		data[2]['blog_time'] = 'Fri, 04 Jan 2013 13:15:28 -0500';
		

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		data[3]['title'] = 'overprotective parents';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/overprotective_parents_c-3_u-253296_b-6264.html';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/overprotective_parents_c-3_u-253296_b-6264.html';
		data[3]['username'] = 'claudiam1999';
		data[3]['blog_id'] = '6264';
		data[3]['blog_message'] = 'so im a teen, a girl, and i have overprotective parents, and by overprotective , i mean embarrassingly overprotective. my dad is more laid back and will let me do more things and go to more places, but my mum is the main issue. if i ask to go somewhere, i have to ask my mum. its like my dad has no input on my social life what so ever. <br /><br />recently i have been talking to a boy that i like and we have been getting on well. he is really nice and i would love to get closer to him. but obviously my mum is getting in the way of that. she wont let me go to a boys house even if its for a couple of hours or for dinner and if a boy comes over she wont let us go upstairs which is pretty embarrassing. i dont want to have a sexual relationship with a boy at this age but my mum doesnt seem to trust me and its really bringing me down.<br /><br />whenever i talk to a boy im scared to get close to them because i know my mum will mess things up. i feel like im not allowed to talk to a boy or to have a boyfriend. i mean, im a teen, obviously im going to be talking to boys or wanting to have a boyfriend but my mum gets in the way of everything.<br /><br />its not even just with boys, its with everything! she only likes about 3 of my friends and she will let me stay at their houses but if its someone she hasnt met or doesnt like she wont let me. like my friend asked me to go to her nans birthday party on the weekend and stay at hers after, and my mum wont let me because she doesnt like her. she ruins everything! i know its cliche that im a teenage girl and saying she ruins my life but she really does. and its bringing me down completely. <br /><br />she wont let me out after dark and i always have a curfew to get home. this boy im talking to doesnt go to my school, but hes the same age as me, so i can only see him on weekends and i cant even see him that long because it gets dark early in the winter and i cant see him after school either so i only ever see him like once a week. he asks me to meet up with him after school sometimes and i always have to come up with an excuse like every other time she says i cant go somewhere. <br /><br />if i ask her to go somewhere or do something she either says &#039;no&#039; straight away or she says &#039;i&#039;ll think about it&#039; and most of the time its a no anyway. im a teenager, she needs to let me go places and experience new things so i can learn from my mistakes. keeping me locked up in the house all the time isnt going to make things any better, its just going to raise me into a liar and make me want to rebel against things. apparently overprotective parents can lead to social anxiety too. i dont know if i have it but im always sad when it comes to my mum and makes me feel depressed. i cry all the time about it and she doesnt care.<br /><br />if i try to explain things like this to her she never listens or understands how i feel. i know shes overprotective because she wants to look out for me and everything but doing this is only going to make things worse. if she let me make mistakes and see right from wrong then i will understand. its not like im going to get raped or mugged if i go out after dark, im only going to be with my friends!<br /><br />i just wish she would understand how i feel and give me a chance. she doesnt trust me and it makes me feel so upset that i dont get opportunities to do anything. <br /><br />im the only friend with an overprotective parent and i feel left out and worthless when my friends talk about all the fun they had when they went out at the weekend or after school without me there because im the girl with the overprotective parent that no one wish they had. <br /><br />dont get me wrong, i love my mum, but she doesnt realise how much this brings me down. and im getting sick of it. i might aswell have no friends or boyfriends or social life until im about 20. <br /><br />please help me to find a solution to this.  <img src="https://www.psychforums.com/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif" alt=":(" title="Sad" /> <br /><br />thank you.';
		data[3]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 30 Jan 2014 12:24:18 -0500';
		

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		data[4]['title'] = 'After sex I lose interest...... what's wrong with me?';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/after_sex_i_lose_interest......_what%CA%B9s_wrong_with_me%CA%94_c-3_u-91847_b-3142.html';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/after_sex_i_lose_interest......_what%CA%B9s_wrong_with_me%CA%94_c-3_u-91847_b-3142.html';
		data[4]['username'] = 'SadLittleJawa';
		data[4]['blog_id'] = '3142';
		data[4]['blog_message'] = 'I am an 18 yrs old female. I want to have a real relationship, but everytime i get the chance the same thing happens. We hang out for a bit, every thing is great we get to know each other and all that gooey mushy stuff, then as soon as we have sex I lose interest in the guy. and its not like the sex is horrible i mean there was one or two times but most of the time its f-ing great. regardless i lose interest and then i want nothing to do with the guy. sometimes we try and be friends but it just becomes awkward. whats wrong with me?? i try to have feelings but they are none exsitent, why is tht? i am not a promiscous person at all, I havent had sex in forever because of this (6 months and counting).Its hard for me to actually express my feelings. My ex told me i was a robot cold and emotionless. i would just like some opinions on this whole situation. I discussed this with some close friends and they tld me i should see a therapist  because i might be a psychopath.';
		data[4]['blog_time'] = 'Tue, 31 Jul 2012 00:40:02 -0400';